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writes:Okay I am not a pretty girl, I am not into going out all the time or drinking, drugs, etc. but what happened tonight has made my life slope bad so here it goes: this is my story!I have liked this guy for 3 months now. He's sweet, nice, and kind to me and my best friend going on 3 years (and she has a boyfriend going on 8 months)She's perfect, she's beautiful, more experienced--I mean she's the package. Well they came over and we all slept in the same bed as friends do but suddenly I start hearing noises. Let's just say not very "pg" noises !. Well I got up, and left the room. They knew I was awake by the way and I go sit outside and I try to call my friend and the one that picks up. tells me to fuck off. Nice--ha! So I am feeling like shit sitting outside in the cold trying to work out what to do. So she, the girl comes out, let's call her Betty. Well, Betty tells me that nothing happened and if I could please not tell our friends. Well, being the wimp I am, I agreed. Well they try and get me in the bed with them saying that my mum would freak if I slept on the couch. Well I told them to stick it and slept on the couch. And this guy (by the way, let's call him Tom) comes out and says "Are you proud of me?" No joke--this asshole said that.So I am sitting here typing out what changed my life and I am feeling like shit and I have to get up for school to tomorrow and smile and act like nothing happened, so here's my question for everyone! ARE YOU PROUD OF ME???? From tabby cat
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 I wouldn't waste time in concocting a plan for revenge. Although you could tell your other mutual friends of what happened making her look like quite the betraying slut.
Really, you should just drop her as a friend and silently wait for karma to catch up to her. In which it will because I'm sure Tom is using Betty for nothing but a piece of rear. Then Tom goes back to school and tells all his friends what a slut Betty is and she soon has a tainted reputation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): hi i am the writer of this storY and yeah they where doing sexuAL stuff in my bed 3 inches from me by the way and i dont know what to do. do i take revenge, do i let this girl get away with it or do i just silently take this and wait for karma to kick in. And yeah she knEw i liked him we where talking bout this 4 hours earlIer! but what should i dooo HELP!
BUT THANK YOU FOR ALL THE ADVICE SOO FAR ITS REALY HELPED :)
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reader, vospie  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 I think you should try to stay out of it too. Your friend and this guy were not being too respectful towards you but I guess they were overcome by lust. Let them face the consequences; you don't need to bring it on them by saying anything. I think you should tell your friend how she made you feel. She may be pretty but that does not mean you have to be so in awe of her you let her treat you badly. Use this opportunity to assert yourself.There is no God, that is why there are ugly people in the world but if you make the best of yourself then you will feel pretty inside and that DOES make a difference to how others see you. Don't think you can't assert yourself and have self-confidence just because you are not picture-book pretty. Your friend is pretty but hasn't been very pretty in character, telling you to fuck off, (if it was her)so think more of yourself and you won't have to preface your points by putting yourself down
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): Your friend is not beautiful, perfect, experienced or the whole package. She's a cheating slut with no morals and a poor friend. And why would you like a guy who would do something like that. Find some nice friends, find a nice guy who prefers sex privately in a loving relationship. Your "friend" will be simply known as the easy girl whilst you will be the one to respect and have a relationship with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): The fact those two so called friends did that while you were sleeping in the same bed is down right disgusting. I think you should be hanging out with people more your type. You sound like a nice girl and you should find some decent friends with morals.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 February 2011):
I'm confused as to why are you asking if we are proud of you. What really is your question? I'll answer your question as to what would I do if I were in your shoes.
Yes, I agree you should leave the room too. They're messing around then playing it off like nothing has happened. Come on you weren't born yesterday. Now, I would sever ties with the friend who told you to f off, Betty because she screwed around with your crush(did she know you liked him?), and Tom. I also wouldn't go back to bed with them, because I'm sure there will be an encore presentation.
So in short, I would get rid of those 3 so called "friends". Why? Because for one they're not very good influences, and they're crap friends. It's time to search for friends who don't decide to have mess around or have sex while you're in the same bed as them, or tell you f off as soon as they answer the phone.
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reader, littleconfused +, writes (21 February 2011):
So your two friends had sex and you are sure of it?
well, personally, I think this is their problem. You don't need to "share" with anyone. If they get in trouble or anything like that. It shouldn't be your fault.
Just let them be. They made this choice, they will have to handle what happens.
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reader, ClearEyes +, writes (21 February 2011):
Weird stuff like this happens all the time, esp at our age. Just toughen up, move on to another guy. I am NOT proud of you for getting all bent out of shape because of some trivial high-school drama scenario. Stay out of it, let the situation play out, if someone asks you what happened just say I don't know. This really isn't your business, this guy obviously has some morality issues if he's willing to help a girl cheat AND offend you in the process.
My advice would be to shut up and move on. Heres my story.
6 months ago Friend 1 and THE GIRL broke up. Two hours before they broke up, Friend 2 was "with" THE GIRL, and continued to be sexually involved with the girl for 5 months. The laws of Karma kicked in and now everyone involved knows, and the liars and cheats have been exposed, all while I sat silently with my secret. Just hang tough, don't say anything, and watch with glee as the deceit catches up with them, (because it will, trust me)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): Never take shit always give it back, as once you take it you shall have to always tike it, stick to your guns and people will respect u
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reader, charitysend +, writes (21 February 2011):
They are jerks for messing around in front of you. It's a good story and I'd tell it around the school if I were you, especially to her boyfriend. Also, start hanging around with other people. These ones aren't very nice to you. High school is a tough time for most people. Hang in there. It is going to get a lot better.
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reader, lostinyou  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 so you're saying your friends were doing it in the same bed as you.?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): hii...
okayy, soo this first part is kind of off-subject, but i couldn't resist. you claim that you are "not a pretty girl." i just want to tell you here and now that that is most certainly NOT true. that may sound weird for me to be saying that when i don't actually know you, but it's the truth. i'm not sure if you're religious or not, but either way, you were made by God. and God does not make ugly people. ") anyways...on with the relevant part of my answer.
if you walked away from a situation that made you uncomfortable, then by all means, YES--you did the right thing. there is honestly no better way to respond to a situation like that than to just get up and leave. trust me, you'll keep yourself out of a whole lot of unwanted trouble that way.
as for how you face your friends, well...take your own advice!!! just "smile and act like nothing happened." i could be totally wrong here, but i get the feeling that you're afraid of being teased by your friends about what happened. well, if you don't let them see that it bothers you, then they probably will be less tempted to tease you about it. just be strong, act like it never happened, and if they bring it up, find some subtle way to change the subject.
to answer your last question, YES. even though i don't know you, i AM proud of you. it takes a lot of guts to walk out--believe me, i know. don't ever lose that brave spirit, because with as young as you are, you are going to experience a LOT of other situations down the road where that same bravery will be needed. soo, never let it go. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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