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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Its all a fantasy that you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Usually if the reason it didnt work out was a character issue...then it still wouldnt work today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): If the reason it didnt work out was a character issue...then it still wouldnt work today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): We all have what ifs, and we all wonder about how things could have or might have been.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2011): Honey, he is playing games with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): Fool me once, shame on you...fool me twice, shame on me
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): he is playing games with you and your emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): Dont lose what is for what might have been. Its a fantasy that you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): I would cut all communication with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Do not have contact with him again. You have a partner. Put your energies into the here and now and not the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): How many times do you need to be dumped? This guy is a player.
I think this is just you wanting to relive a fantasy.
The grass is not always greener on the otherside of the fence. if it is it is because it's been watered. I would cut all communication with him.
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reader, Eilish  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Hi hun.
First off.. what the hell are you doing meeting up with an ex from 15 years ago? Especially one who left you for another woman. If he did it once, he can do it again. That's a big mistake as far as I'm concerned. If someone left me for someone else and hurt me so much I wouldn't want anything to do with the bastard ever again. You're much better than this hun! Walk away! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): Maybe you have got off lightly. He is an unpleasant man. He has met with you after so many years but does not have the respect to at least be civil. Do not have contact with him again. You have a partner. Put your energies into the here and now and not the past.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 February 2011):
What happened was you were not focused! You let the idea of an ex having changed come into your mind, and you have paid the price. He left you for another woman 15 years ago, and 15 years later, he's the same man.
Worryingly, you now appear to be turning into what he is. You are involved, but you saw this ex? Perhaps you're not committed, and perhaps you need to spend time alone to work out what you want. You clearly can't have this ex (he's no good), and apparently the person you're seeing now isn't the one either.
Learn this lesson: People don't change unless they want to. your ex is still the same man who dumped you for another women. It's just a shame that you're following his route. You need to work out what you want from your life.
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reader, DenimandLace44  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Fool me once, shame on you...fool me twice, shame on me...honey, he is playing games with you and your emotions. Dont lose what is for what might have been. Its a fantasy that you have. We all have what ifs, and we all wonder about how things could have or might have been. Usually if the reason it didnt work out was a character issue...then it still wouldnt work today. If it was a matter of circumstances, the odds are slightly better. I would cut all communication with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2011): leave him maaaan,go on dude!
i'm sure there'll be many o ya absolutely many ppl whom u can make boyfriend lols
xx
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reader, charitysend +, writes (21 February 2011):
What happened is that he was remembering the good times, was feeling nostalgic, and agreed to see you again. Once you were together, he had second thoughts about getting back together with you. So he was rude and hurtful to make you go away.
Sometimes past relationships can be picked back up; other times you just have to let them go. This one is one of those that you have to just let go. He's telling you clearly that he's moved on; you need to as well.
Leave the past in the past.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (21 February 2011):
 So, you're involved, but looking to hook up with an ex from 15 years ago? Did I read that right?
It's good he was rude. It shows you why you shouldn't be with him. Nothing like a slap like that as a reminder why you broke up!
Work on your relationship. If you're looking outside of it for hookups, perhaps it's time to leave.
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