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writes:okay, so my teacher is a nice guy. He's friendly and extremely nice. He doesn't really flirt with students, but if they want him to hug them or if they touch him a lot, he has no problem with that at all. I'm really worried about my friend, like she'll go link arms with him and walk down the hallway, or he'll imply that he wants her to hug him, and they seem to flirt when they're together. I'm not sure if he's intersted in her or if i'm overeacting. Can I have some advice? Do you think my teacher could be in the educational business for the wrong reason?
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reader, rcn +, writes (25 October 2007):
 let's put it this way, for Halloween, he won't need to dress up, he's creepy enough.
If this teacher continues, I'd notify someone with authority at the school that he creeps you out.
I want you to learn this as a life lesson as well. You all ready pick up when something doesn't seem right. Remember always, if it doesn't it probably isn't. This goes for all your experiences. Let's take cheating as an example. Most of the time people who begin cheating make small changes in their schedule. Many times they are so small that our conscious minds don't pick it up. Our subconscious picks up on the small behavior change, so you might get this same feeling that something is not quite right, don't ignore them or you'll end up getting hurt more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well thank you for all of the advice, I really appreciate it, but another incident happened yesterday after school. Our teacher asked my friend where her boyfriend was. Then when she asked him how he knew she had a bf, and he said he knows everyhing and then winked at her..... Is it just me or is that whole incident a tad creepy?! And it shows that now he obviously pays too much attention to her right? or am I overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): pedophile is a word that needs to be used very carefully, its something that if untrue can cause irepairable damage to a persons life.
I think you do have cause to be concerned about his behaviour, it is still crossing the line of teacher/student relationships. There is no reason for either of them to touch each other or hug - why would your friend want him to hug her? I wouldnt have wanted my teachers anywhere near me when I was at school and the teachers wouldnt have allowed it anyway just incase they were accused of acting out of line.
You need to report the teacher to the principle.Ask if you can remain anonymous if you want to. Even if you just tell your concerns and ask that they can observe the teachers behaviour and make their own minds up as to whether he is inappropriate. At least then if he were to abuse his position, they were warned and you will have done all you can.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (14 October 2007):
If it's like you say, the teacher may be going too far. Tell the principal what you noticed. It's the principal's job to check out these things.
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reader, Lila +, writes (14 October 2007):
 Sounds like a teacher I had in high school flirting with young girls progressed to touching,toughing led to I don't wanna think about. He's no longer a teacher he works at the gas station now. Tell your friend it's icky to touch teachers and barf to stay away from him and his old disgusting balls, BARF!
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reader, thewiseman +, writes (14 October 2007):
 I agree with richard just watch closely, if needed bring it up with school administration if it continues to get more "physical"
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 October 2007):
I'd just monitor their behavior. Teacher at times get close with students, not necessarily because they are interested in something else, but because they spend so much time with them and develop kind of a mentor bond with them.
Have you talked with your friend about it? If not I'd talk to her. She's the one linking arms, and she'd know better if he's come on to her at all.
Richard
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