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writes:I'm single again for the first time in a long time and I'm not quite sure of myself. I've been in a grand total of 3 relationships and they've all ended badly. I'm not sure what it is that I'm doing wrong here I mean I could swear that everytime I do everything right but it always seems like there is something better out there and I'm tired of not being good enough. When I'm in a relationship I do play the role of girlfriend, lover, and friend. I've always been there without being clingy and its hard to for me to accept that sex is the problem because I enjoy the physical aspect of the relationship just as much as they do and I'm a pretty decent looking girl. Part of me is thinking maybe it might just be the local boys because whenever I travel I feel ten times more attravtive and wanted then I do at home, which is kinda sad because I live in a city of over 1.5 million people. Any suggestions as to what I'm doing wrong here? Or what I could do to do better? Cheated on for the 4th time, what am I doing wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 I dont think you are doing anything wrong in the relationships I think you are just choosing the wrong me to have relationships with.
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reader, Djmclucas113  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 Honestly from what it sounds like u r not doing anything wrong except choosing the wrong guy but that's what dating is all about trying to find ur one love but don't give up and don't fall for the cheap lies that most guys will give to get they want
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (12 February 2009):
 You are obviously choosing the wrong men, but the question is - how and why? Could it be that you base your choices primarily upon who is best looking and/or popular?
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reader, lightningrod247 +, writes (12 February 2009):
Nothing wrong with you. It's something thats wrong with the guys that you are picking.
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reader, amyrechel +, writes (12 February 2009):
Hi, I have been in your shoes in the past, I am not really sure what to say except to maybe change up on what kind of guys your dating. Usually a person will be attracted to the same kind of guy. I know I am. Kind of sit down and take a moment and write down all the characteristics on the men you have dated and see what all they have in common, and what was different. Kind of search a little beyond what you find attractive to you.. I really hope the next person you find treats you how you deserve...
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reader, Jager  +, writes (12 February 2009):
hey. First off let me say im sorry for you. I understand how you must be feeling. The problem could be rather simple it could be a number of things but im inclined to think that you are going after the wrong kind of guy. Many times i have seen girls who get hurt by a certain type of guy get over it only to go out and find another guy just like the last one. The reason this happens is actually rather simple. There are good and bad points in a person granted this is generally accepted however if you dont not actually get over a partner properly you tend to either transfer your feeling onto the next guy you find or in your case if your unlucky you find a guy who reminds you of the last guy you were with. Problem is that they are so similar that they have the same bad traits too so the naturally end up cheating on you. What you could do is to try and break the mold. Find a guy that you wouldn't normally go for and give him a chance. You never know mr right might be out there for you. Just try to stop going out with tossers. x
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