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writes:Is it ever possible to have someone cheat in a relationship, and then really forgive someone? If you really forgive that person in your heart, can you still live happily ever after? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): forgiveness is really a selfless act when you have been hurt so many times its seems like its the hardest thing to do. to let go of something someone has done when you have put your trust in them.This is really gonna take the strenght of god because humans are born selfish in some kind of way, and one become selfless would take dieing to yourself and the only way you can die to yourself. Is if you had some super natural powers, and that power comes from god so i say seek god only he can give you these powers. When you are weak then he is strong ,This is gonna take a deep relationship with god one would have to get to know him to do this ,because even if you accept him as your lord and saver thats not good enough you have to go deeper.read the world ,get up early in the moring and seek his face,meaning pray and he will give you the strength to do the things you cant do on your own.It takes time ,but we can do anything threw christ that gives us strenght. You have to trust him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): In my situation... you truly never forget. There will always be something to make that pain feel like it happened yesterday. Forgiving someone that claimed to love you (let alone like you !) that could intentionally deceive you is hard to fathom.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 Forgiving isn't the problem, it's forgetting...
I told my husband that I would forgive him if he ever cheated, I would write "I Forgive You with All My Heart" on his tombstone - it seemed to get the right message across to him when we were first married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): that happend to me my bf cheated on me and i forgave him, but since then our relationship messed up. i dont trust him annymore and im always thinkint that his cheating on me, so its up to you, but your never going to forget that he cheated on you, and once someone cheats he will always cheat
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 No one is perfect and we commit mistakes .
To err is only human and to forgive is divine.
We should not judge others , lest we will be judged back with the same high standards.
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reader, Keira9312 +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Cheating simply means that he wanted to end the relationship, but he may have felt scared about talking to you. That just proves that he dated you while feeling uncomfortable. You should forgive him. If he doesn't want to be more than friends, that is okay. It's one more person on your side in a time of need.
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reader, shannon222 +, writes (24 April 2010):
shannon222 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes he has apologized... over and over again. I do really want us to work, and I believe with all my heart that he does too. I know by his emotions that he is sincere in his apologies. I believe in my heart I will forgive him... Too bad I have such a long road ahead of me. But I am strong, I will make it.
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reader, shannon222 +, writes (24 April 2010):
shannon222 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers. I appreciate that you are assisting me with my predicament. It really did help
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (24 April 2010):
It is possible if you really love that person and love God.
Forgiveness means that you wipe his slate clean and start all over again. You may not forget that incident but it will not give you anymore pain.
If you cannot live happily ever after, then you have not really forgiven the guilty person.
Some affairs can strengthened the marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): For me the answer is no, I would never forgive that but that's just me. I always make it clear that's the worst thing someone could do to me from the start of any relationship and it would indicate immediately to me that I was neither good nor enough for them and the relationship would be over.
I'm a one person guy though, even when I just have feelings for someone and nothing has happened yet, I won't even look at another girl. I have not nor will I ever cheat because it's just not in me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): i forgave - worked out for us personally.
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reader, KRSMouse  +, writes (24 April 2010):
Some people need to cheat, in order to realise what they have already got. If someone cheats once, and realises this, sometimes it can improve the relationship. The problem begins if they cheat again. This marks that the relationship isn't working, and at this point its better to draw a line under it and sooner rather than later.Whether you choose to forgive them or not is really down to you, obviously we don't know the circumstances, why he did it, how sorry he is etc. Only you can make that judgement. I hope everything works out for you xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 April 2010):
It really does take a lot of heart, and I think that you can forgive, but not ever forget. A huge amount of effort, for something that may happen again. I'm sure it can be done, but it's very hard work.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (24 April 2010):
NO NO and No again!
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reader, Myau  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Well my personal answer is no. Cheating = end of relationship as far as I'm concerned.But that is me, If you do feel that it was a mistake and wont be repeated then yes you could move past it, BUt you would have to want that
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reader, Just Diana  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 Forgiveness in my experience has taught me that I need to remind self constantly on a daily basis that I have forgiven!! Its a process of constantly even in thought setting the person who broke your trust free. Has this person apologised? It is very difficult to trust the person who has broken the trust, however, I do believe that if you both work on where, what and how the trust got broken and committing to healing the root cause, then yes.Unfortunately with this sort of trust, their is a whole medley of other emotions that impact on the situation. insecurity, obsessions, doubt, anger, rejection, betrayel, etc.....healing is going to be a process!So in short its not just about a heart healing......but one can heal enough to the point of being liberated past the action....not necessarily the pain. This will only come in much time and self work!
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