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writes:Can you ever heal and move on from your first love?
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reader, heartbroken101 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 no. you won't necessarily GET OVER IT. you will learn from it. trust me. i know how your feeling. my mum just yesterday walked in on me about to take all this stuff because i am still so upset 3 months after we have broken up. my feelings are very very strong...i go from liking to loving in a very short amount of time and other people dont (side effect of my ADHD) but i definately know what your going through. im glad she walked in even if at first i was very angry at her for it. she saved my life. you have your whole life ahead of you. time will heal. i should take my own advice and i know its easier said then done. but you need to believe it. and make sure you dont go sleeping around and hooking up and getting drunk with all these other chicks because it gives you the worst feeling after it. don't make someone your all but...because when they leave...you're left with nothing left. dont try and contact them either because my ex messaged me and told me he was going out with another chick. surround yourself with friends and family who love you for you. who are hurting because your hurting. i hope this isn't true...but in my case...im the only one hurting because he has moved on already. it breaks my heart. but you will learn from it. trust me.
stay strong. because your not alone.
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reader, nicola79  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 yes you can move on and have a happy life, you will never forget your first love, i met my first love when i was 14 and broke up when i was 18. i am now nearly 28 and very happy with my husband who i love so so so much, but ive never forgotten my first love. xxxxxxxxxxxx
you will be fine flower.xx
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reader, carlyuk +, writes (27 May 2007):
 It will take time for you to get over your first love, i have been through the same thing my first love hurt me bad but after time and alot of crying and learning to accept it i have grown to get over him. Juts you remember that life goes on, it will take time and you maybe hurting now but im telling you that in the future you will thank your self that all the pain as gone and when it has feel very proud of your self just like i do.
i wish you the world of luck it wont be easy but you can do it if you really want it.
good luck
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reader, sunrise +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Yes you can but it takes time, you will go through all the emotions..hurt,jealousy, anger, bitterness and eventually acceptance.
Your first love will always hold memories for you to cherish or cringe at!
Friends will help you move on, get out there and start to live a life for you, good luck
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (27 May 2007):
 YES. The short answer is time heal all wounds. But to help the process just do things that will keeep your mind off this person.
In my opinion the hurt will never be fully gone but you can move on
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl  +, writes (27 May 2007):
 yes you will someday get over your first love it is the hardest thing to do because simply she was your first love and so alot of people think you can never get over them i havent really gotten over my first love simply because i was in love with him in 4th grade we went out then a year passed and we got in a stupid fight he left to go somewhere and he never came back he died 2 hrs later in a car accident and so its really hard to get over him but i have to keep holding on and what im telling you is that you will someday get over your first love so just give it time
good luck
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Course you can...It may seem like the hardest thing you have had to deal with (or one of them), but over time you will heal yourself depending on ending of the relationship.
It is right what has been said, you do set your boundaries from here and it is all a learning curve for you from now. You have to remember to learn from any mistakes you may have made and use that to your advantage. become stronger in yourself, it may take time but it is the right thing to do.
No-one knows what the future holds so what you think now is bound to be different to what is going to happen in your future. Everyone has an inner strength to draw from so use this to guide you through the greiving process and you`ll be just fine...
R
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reader, candy00s +, writes (27 May 2007):
 You will always remember you first love. simply because of the fact that he/she was your first love!
You will move on and find someone else and get over it yes.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (27 May 2007):
 The first love ALWAYS hurts the worse. It's the love that teaches you about yourself. Your first relationship tends to be the one we all set our boundaries and standards from. We never completely heal from it, but we can move on with our lives.
DV1
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reader, penta +, writes (27 May 2007):
 Well, the short answer is "yes." This person will always hold a place in your heart labeled "first." But don't worry. The person who will hold the part labeled "best" is still out there, I promise.
In the meantime, keep busy. Find stuff to do that you enjoy. Work on being the comfortable, confident person that will attract the next love. Don't sit at home and mope -- moping is really unattractive. Give yourself time to heal, and when you're ready, she'll be there.
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