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writes:This is a question coming from an obvious virgin, but I'm a little worried at the same time. I get wet very easily and very fast. It's enough to saturate my underwear. My only problem is I'm worried I'm going to be TOO wet when I actualy have sex. I assume it's just the fact that I have clothes on, trapping the moisture in, or that I might be hot or something, and that once I take my clothes off, the air will er...dry it up a litte I guess.I get turned on easily by my boyfriend, and with him the wetness is double what it is when it's just me. I know it's dumb, but I'm a little worried once we actually have sex, it'll be too much. Like there wont be enough friction for him, or even me. Like it will be slippery?Is that even possible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2010): CANNOT be too wet. The wetter the better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): Hey the only reason you are worrying about this is because you are a virgin and have no real experience of intercourse yet. I have had intercourse with girls who don't get very wet at all and am with a girl currently who gets very wet during foreplay and increasingly so as we have sex. You are completely normal and it is nothing to worry about. I can tell you from a guys perspective it is better a girl is wetter rather than dryer. It makes for much more comfortable sex on our part. If you get really wet during sex you might find a loss of sensation as will your partner. My girlfriend and I have found a couple of ways round this! One is simply to stop having sex and kiss & cuddle during which you can just give yourself a quick wipe then you can carry on. Or if you and your partner are comfortable he can wear a cock ring helping him to keep an erection. I think the most important questin here is are you really redy and with the right person.If you are you should be able to talk to your partner about it and not be embaressed or it be a big deal.Good sex always comes from good communication. I would also say if you have sex and your first time with your partner is not quite what you expect don't worry and don't give up! Good sex come from practice too! Hope that helps. I'm a 25 year old male by the way.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Too wet is alway better than too dry IMHO. Don't worry too much. Seems like you are spending a lot of time building a bridge when you aren't sure if you need one yet. As the others have already said, relax.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, daletom +, writes (15 January 2010):
Don't worry about it until you actually KNOW that it's a problem.
A few guys might be put off by it, but they're a minority. If you are with the right partner, and having sex for the right reasons, either he'll actually find it a turn-on (part of what makes you, YOU), or it won't matter to him, or the two of you will work out some kind of adaptation. Good sex can sometimes be a little messy. Personally, (and I know this probably sounds gross to you), the "mess" often contributes to the experience.
You may experience one problem when you start having sex with a partner. Because of your wetness, he may assume you are ready for insertion before you really are. You may be very wet and lubricated before your vagina is fully relaxed and open, and ready to receive him. The best advice I can give is to make sure he helps you to at least a preliminary orgasm before he enters you.
Speaking as a guy, "too wet" only gets to be a problem if it's accompanied by "too open" - like the 3rd or 4th time you have intercourse in one lovemaking session. And then it's not much of a problem: you either put those Kegel muscles to work (an awesome sensation for a guy if it's done well!) or the two of you shift positions (something where your legs are together may work well). These are things you learn as you get more experienced with a regular partner - hopefully somebody you're committed to as husband/wife, life-partners, etc.
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (15 January 2010):
I would say "I suffer with the same problem" but that would be a lie. It's not a problem and it certainly doesn't cause suffering. Men love it!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 January 2010):
No, don't worry at all. It's more likely your boyfriend will love it.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (15 January 2010):
no you are just right and it will feel like velvit to him. enyoy it as it will not always be that way
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (15 January 2010):
 For me, there is no such thing as being 'too' wet.
A woman's natural response to sexual arousal is to lubricate the vagina, and men get an erection. It makes everything that much easier!
Many girls of your age, especially virgins, tend to worry about sex, almost as if their performance and bodies are about to be judged by all and sundry.
Mature, or sexually experienced men will love the fact that your body reacts quickly, and so obviously. It can be a huge turn on for us men.
There are a small number of guys who seem to hate the idea of women being wet, but usually these men are virgins too, or sexually immature, or maybe just a little odd about body fluids.
Women get really wet when they are hot for sex. What more could a man want?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): One of my ex girlfriends was very wet. To be perfectly honest I loved it. It feels really good to me. It let's me know I'm doing my job right if she is so turned on.
If you are really worried about it you could always just um, wipe the excess right before he penetrates. But honestly, I think it will be fine.
If he is anything like me he won't mind. You should enjoy your first time. God knows I didn't. I was so stressed! lol.
so my advice is just relax and enjoy it. If you want to talk to him about it. If he cares for you he will understand and want your first time to be comfortable for you.
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