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writes: me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years,in his home he doesn't have anything to suggest he's in a relationship, not even a photo of me or me and him together. I believe it's to say he is single and available,am i right in thinking this? Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Maybe he is not the photos holding type of guy.
Does he have any other photos of any other person or relatives.
Sorry but it feels that you want to brand your man like cowboys do to cattle.
On a more serious note, even if he did have your photos displayed, if he was the cheating type, he could quite easily hide them when entertaining someone else!
You do not have anything to worry about necessarily, this is not a sign that he is acting single. You would need more evidence than that.
If you have been together for five years, why do you not live in the same house? You know this person better than any agony aunt, how committed is he to you. The real issue here is not pictures displayed or not but that you need reassurance from a guy you have been with for five years and you have not taken the relationship to the next level?
You can always give him a photo frame with your pic on it to give him the opportunity to display it.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Guys aren't like us girls. They don't like cushions, photo frames or any of the little homely touches we love. I bet that if you look really hard you'll realise he doesn't have any pics at all at his place, except maybe the obligatory one of his sister's baby etc. Try not to be so oversensitive. I think you're trying to find a problem that isn't really there.
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reader, Blue Rat +, writes (17 January 2007):
Blimey, talk about putting 2 and 2 together and coming up with 6. He hasn't got any pictures of you in his flat, so he's sending out a message that he's single??? Eh?? How do you work that one out. He just hasnt given it a moment's thought - most guys wouldn't.
I think you're being over-sensitive and, I'm sorry to be blunt, but possibly a bit vain too. Have you got a good relationship? If so, that's what matters, not photographs.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I guess it would depend on who he had over at his house ? I mean is he inviting women over all the time ? And giving the impression he is single ? Or is it just this photo thing... Just because a Guy doesnt have any pics up doesnt mean didly squat... Men are not like us... they are simplistic and many are uncluttered and sometimes the need for a photo simply isnt what they desire or even think about.. Im sensing its not just the photo thing here..... I mean does he otherwise treat you right ? Are you getting what you want from the relationship ? Ie is it going the way you want it to... or are you seriously having doubts about the relationship ? 5 years with someone is a long time, and maybe your concerned about how its progressing and you see no photos and think well thats because he doenst want to be with me, he wants to look single, hes keeping his options open.. when guys really dont view it like that... hes probably more than happy as you are and the thought hadnt occured to him... To see that hes got no pics up and for you to say, " am I right in thinking that hes single and available ?" Isnt the first conclusion that I would come to... theres got to me more to this thats nagging at you hun...
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Most women are more, how do you say this....sensitive towards feelings and emotions, whilst men are more,....laid back creatures when it comes to things like this. I'm quite sure the fact that hes not got any pictures of you up his wall of fame is because he wants to say to people he's single and available!! Come on love, you wouldnt really think that would you, when hes been with you for FIVE years now?!! If I wanted to show people Im single, I'd just be single, simple as that. I wouldnt put up with a 5 year relationship, and then not hang the pictures on the wall of my partner just to show that Im single! Nah, doesnt make sense to me at all! Im sure he's treating you alright, for if not, you wouldve been telling us about it. So i ask you this, would it have made a difference to you if he put your pictures up but hasnt been a good boyfriend? Think about it.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Not necessarily. Maybe he just hasnt thought about putting a pic up of you. I would look at other aspects of your relationship to see if there's anything to suggest he wants to appear to be single. If he is still loving to you and treats you well then i wouldnt worry too much about it. Why dont you ask him about it? Or give him a nice pic of the two of you in a frame and see what he says. If he refuses to put it up ask him why. you wont know until you talk to him.
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reader, kim6906 +, writes (17 January 2007):
if you are that worried about this then why dont you get yourself some professional portraits done pick the one you really like and give it to him as a surprise present if he puts it up somewhere for everyone to see then poblem solved, but if he puts it away in a drawer then confront him about it. hope this helps.
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