A
female
age
41-50,
*iba O
writes:Dear Moms, I was wondering how you can be a working mom and raise your child on your own without having a house maid or a nanny full time to help you.. Im a soon to-be-mom and hope you can tell me about raising children on your own , as well as commitiing to house chorus.. how can you manage it? or should i hire a full time house maid?Thanks alotLots of love Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Janetbubi  +, writes (4 June 2010):
Yes u need one,after birth you need a househelp to help you and if you are going back to work make sure you get smeone u can trust with your kid.
A
female
reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 June 2010):
 I'm a big believer in getting a maid - heck I have one and I dont even have kids! I have a full time job and I just do not have the time to give the house a good clean, so once a week I have someone who comes and cleans the whole house.
Having kids is a full time job so dont put any pressure on yourself if you cannot get the chores done too - if you can afford a maid then go for it!
I dont really believe in having a nanny - if you dont have a job and you are at home full time then you should be responsible for your child rather than relying on another woman to be a "surrgoate" mum when you are feeling a bit tired. You are always going to be tired as a mum, and it will be hard work and at times it will drive you mad, but as a mum it is your duty to take care of the child - not pass the child on to another woman to do your job.
But a maid is fine - having a young baby will be hard enough without having to worry about household chores so as I said before, if you can afford a maid then you should go for it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
...............................
A
male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 June 2010):
I know I'm a guy, but I think if you can afford a maid to help is a good idea. Everyone needs a break from chores and such, and everyone occasionally needs a break from children. I think as long as you spend quality time with your child and you can afford a maid, it's a good idea. It's worth getting rid of some of the stress.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): I brought up three children on my own and worked and studied full time. I had to balance the house work with my work and study. It was not too bad when the younger two were small but whn I had my third and the age difference. As they get older it becomes more difficult as they become more dirtier.
My secret is ot to keep clutter and to clean the general areas daily and do a big clean on the weekends. Put clothes away immediately. This is a big task I am working on at the moment as I wash regularly then it creates ironing which i tend to leave lying around which makes the house appear untidy.
You may find that you can afford a maid, if you can go for it. Most of us do it ourselves with the help of all the fancy gadgets around these days.
Good luck with you baby.
...............................
A
female
reader, Tashie08 +, writes (4 June 2010):
leave the maid, what i do is leave the house to a once over once a week i.e polishin, cleaning bathroom, and just give the main room and kitchen a quick tidy up/clean til the evenings once things settle down and the kids are in bed. The first few months are the hardest, because a routine is hard to get in place with a baby,but after that, when things get in order, trust me,you'll find your own routine. Don't worry about mess, no one can expect you to be superwoman and as long as it is bearable,and things are generally clean, it's ok.x
...............................
A
male
reader, Nic390  +, writes (4 June 2010):
 Hello. I am a son of a full time mom. I have had tons of baby sitters and gone to day cares and spent time with my grandmother but I don't really have a relationship with my mom. I don't talk to her. I hate my father for not being a father. Look my point is this is going to mess up your kid. I think this has to do with why I am doing so bad in school. I'm in high school now and I'm really not doing well. Back to the point please show a lot of attention to your kid. Maybe he can have a better life than I did. You can have other people raise your kid but you need to be a part of his life unlike my mom. Try to work from home or something. Look I don't remember too much of my childhood but I remember that I had no parents. Nobody to talk to and it was not that great. Ohh and if you get a baby sitter you might wanna get a Nani cam because you never know what someone is doing with your kid. One of my babysitters where accused of touching the kids but I don't really remember if he did to me. So just be a part of your kids life please. Sorry if this is long and makes no sence. Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, YouWish +, writes (4 June 2010):
 Well, a lot of it is not having too much house. Also, if you're a working mom full-time and your husband is also full-time, why not split the chores 50/50? It's not just you who's responsible.
However, you mentioned you were going to raise a child "on your own", but I didn't want to assume that you are a single mom, but if you are, it all boils down to doing a little bit every night. Buy clothes that don't require high maintenance washing/ironing, or get them professionally cleaned and pressed.
BUT - if you've got the finances to hire a maid, GO FOR IT! That's one way to take care of the house, and it'll take away the pressure of that much responsibility. A baby will absolutely take every ounce of strength you have. In the beginning, it'll be the lack of sleep. Later, it'll be the kid crawling, making major messes, and requiring tons of supervision. A housekeeper will take a HUGE load off your mind, and keep things orderly, which will further help your well-being.
You have it in you to do it yourself, but if you can get a maid, by all means it's a great investment!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): it may not be much coming from a man but iv raise my neice and both of my nephews, i did so alone, so iv found it helpful for lack of a better word trick friends into helping, and as the child grows make games out of chores, as long as ur friends dont see it as u passing ur kid off on them it should fine, and having a maid would help alot but strain financially, it isnt bad, just expinsive
...............................
|
