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writes:I am taking all the precautions, being safe, public place, telling my friends etc etc.My question is, is it normal to be so unsure of everything? I like him a lot, but I feel nervous, that he wont like me at all, that maybe we aren't meant to be, that this might end after we meet, we'll have nothing to talk about etc etc.Any tips from people who have been there?And any things we should do/talk about to really get to know each other?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, stephekm  +, writes (24 July 2011):
Gut feeling is always right!!But it might be nerves talking.|Don't let him think you are into him, just be cool!!
Cool attitude gets you every man!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): Have you considered that a) you may not like him in the flesh or b) he is probably just as nervous
Just look on it as saying hi to a friend, nothing heavy, its to see if theres chemistry, a connection, to see if its worth a 2nd meeting etc Get to know a little more about his world. Work,friends,family..Dont grill him but do listen to him and watch his body language.Go with the flow...But most of all just relax,have a laugh, it isn't your wedding day and he's not the only man on the planet
Good luck x
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reader, Sparta  +, writes (23 July 2011):
 Well first off; be CAREFUL! I'm not against online relationships one of my family members met a women from canada online and now they are happily married in california. But be careful; pepper spray or some way to defend yourself for that unlikley circumstance will be good. Other than that just have to relax; talk to him as you always to. Dont let meeting him in person make it seem like online and offline are two separate things. You like him; so this should be even better. Just have fun; relax get to know eachother on a more personal level instead of just reading text.
You will be fine :)
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reader, Natures relic +, writes (23 July 2011):
A Female, wise to take precautions. Other than than Tisha is right. I'd only add if there's a spark you'll know, believe me, and if there isn't then either have some fun or move on. No harm no foul.
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reader, SkareCroe +, writes (23 July 2011):
 Okay I been through the same thing actaully. ALWAYS Bring a friend. ASk him if he would mind a double date. If he acts weird then assume something is up. Do not meet him at night and meet him in a PUBLIC place. it is natural to be nervous due to the fact you are meeting a guy you like whom you have never met before in your life. Meet him and if he doenst like you and ends it then he wasnt worth your time. IT is better to try and see where it goes or you may be stuck in a relationship that is going no where. I have dont this with people a few times (I was the wingman for people)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 July 2011):
 The reason you're nervous is that you've labeled him as a boyfriend before you actually met him. So you've got a lot of pressure on.
If you call him simply a friend, a guy you are looking forward to get to know, it'll take the pressure off.
Basically, you're out ahead of yourself.
So get to know him first. Only then will you know for sure if he is actually worthy boyfriend material. The rest is a really nice online chat.
How old is he? How did you meet?
Presumably you've spent time talking to him online, so I think the strategy is to talk about the things you've already discussed.
Oh and news flash, insecurity and feeling uncertain are perfectly normal! :D
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reader, Dasd +, writes (23 July 2011):
Hey, I know how you feel so don't worry, I met my current girlfriend online, and met 2 months after we first started talking and we just clicked, how long have you two been talking for online? and for the nothing to talk about well that happened to me, cause I was sooo nervous it is unbelievable I was sweating quite badly, but after a while I calmed down a bit and then we got talking for a while, and by online boyfriend like how long have yous been yous been bf and gf online? pretty much the advice I would have for you is too relax, and be yourself and see what happens? sorry I am not really good at giving advice, this is my first time, and I though I would give it a shot as I have been in the same boat as you, I hope this helped a bit, although probably not :/ hhaaa
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (23 July 2011):
 being unsure of yourself is totally normal...he probably feels the same way lol. just be yourself and dont let him pressure you into anything youre not ready for!
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): go with a friend and tell them to watch/look after you from far away ... ive been there, the guy and I didnt last long because he had to move out of state for law school and i was in school in my state ... i didnt want a long distance relationship so we stopped it ... take all the precautions ... thats all i can say
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