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writes:So this is not as complicated as it i think it is..I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years 2 months ago. Yes, i was the 'bad one' for calling it off. We were making each other miserable, i was falling ill because of it, it was not worth the pain at all in the end.Now of late..a friend of mine has caught my fancy.He used to like another friend (which is how i got to know him in the first place), but she was never interested in him, she was in love with her ex-boy friend.So this guy, stays in a city..approx 3 hrs away from where i stay. I'd gone there this week for work and i met him last night for dinner.First of all, he's really cute! So i was staying at this hotel and when he drove up to the front, i couldn't help but notice how *eee warm i feel* whenever i talk to him..We went out for dinner...he chatted non-stop. To be frank, i did not know that he could talk so much! There were a few awkward moments in between,but by and large, it was nice.He asked me once ,"so how long are you going to be here?"Me:"I'm leaving tomorrow."Him: Isn't it possible for you to extend your stay over the weekend?ME:(jumping inside): No, i wish i could but i have a lot of house-hunting to do. (which is true, i need to shift asap)We spoke a bit about his dog..'Buddy'. HE invited me over to see him;but it was 11 at night and his parents stay with him so i was like :o...then we both decided we didn't want to face awkward questions.:DWe went out for ice-cream after that.He dropped me back to my hotel...everything was okay till we hugged. I usually hug with one arm. He was sitting on his bike, i got off, chatted with him for a minute and then we were saying 'bye';i leaned in to hug him, somehow, both my arms were around him and likewise, he hugged me really tight..for about two seconds. When we let go, we couldn't look at each other.:oHe said 'keep in touch' and whizzed out..The thing is...One, the hug felt reaaaallly good. Two, i have a tiny crush on him.Three, he's a really nice fellow.Now i don't know if i should take this forward. . . i mean is he interested or is he just being nice? I mean he never ignores me, whenever i text him, he always replies back immediately.I know i am interested...but is it too soon... i mean its just been two months.I wanna know...how can i find out if he's not still interested in my friend? And if he is not..how do i take it forward . . . since we are in different cities. But i know, if i have to date someone, it will be him...i've always had a soft spot for him. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice...the thing is, i don't know if he's over her...i don't know how to talk about it...Lol...i'll have to take a 3-4 hour trip again to meet him . . . though i'd do it for him even if we were just friends. :)
If he's not over her then... :( *deep sigh*
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reader, ayeshaH  +, writes (23 July 2011):
it sounds like you guys really had chemistry and like each other a lot.
and he definately sounds interested in you. i mean asking if you could stay longer and replying to your texts immediately are all very good signs.
he sounds like a really sweet guy and i'd say you should take things forward.
maybe meet him a couple more times and if things keep going as well then have a little talk about his crush on your friend.
although it sounds as if hes over it.
hope this helps
xx.
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reader, juniexbaby  +, writes (23 July 2011):
I don't think it is too soon at all. I say if you like this guys go for it! He seems to like you as well. Don't beat around the bush, tell him how you feel and if he doesn't feel the same way...well then at least you can say you tried.
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