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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey Guys ,I was with my boyfriend for over a year and a few months ago he broke up with me, he recently has told me he wants to give us another chance and I'm soo happy because i love him so much and the past few months have been horrible without him. The only problem is my Mom does not like him anymore and she doesn't want me seeing him. What can i do to get her to change her mind?Cos he really is such a amazing guy and he make's me soo happy!
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reader, Natures relic  +, writes (23 July 2011):
No better friend than a Mother. You may disagree, but you may also, if you listen as Abella indicates, discover something you missed. On the other hand it could just be your Mom's pissed at him dumping you, Mothers can be protective like that.
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reader, Abella +, writes (23 July 2011):
 please ask your Mom for some time to quietly discuss something important with you. Tell her you need to hear her calmly give you some advice and her wisdom.
Ask if she can please keep calm as there maybe something about your question that will set off all the 'bells and whistles' for her emotionally.
Promise her faithfully that you will NOT interupt while she speaks.
And to ensure you hear the whole message, ask if she would mind if tou write notes of what she says, while she speaks. This helps you control your emotions and helps you identify points that may need clarification later.
It also means you have to concentrate, and cannot interject nor start being defensive.
Getting defensive in a discussion like this is counter-productive.
Then ask, 'please Mom, will you tell me why you don't like.......?
Afterwards do not start defending. But ask if you could go away to examine your notes, and think about all your Mom said
and raised.
Some of what your Mom says may be true, some may not be true.
Then meet again later with any well thought out points and suggestions you want to raise, in order for you to demonstrate his good points or any extenuating circumstances that may be relevant to help change her mind.
Your Mom may or may not change her mind. But keep her as your ally. She wants you to be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): If you really want prove to your mom that your ex-boyfriend is an amazing guy, sometimes the best way to show that is to listen to her. Have discussion with her. Let her know how you feel and ask her what she thinks of him and why she doesn't like him anymore. Teenagers and parents aren't usually close at this time of the year, but do try. This will improve your relationship greatly. By this, she may even gain to trust you and your ex-boyfriend.
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