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writes:Hoping someone can help me here as I need it. I dated a guy for a bit last year. I must admit that it was one sided...more on my part. I would not sleep with him as fast as he wanted so he let me go...in a nice way but it was still a blow. Both of us are on a committee together and it seems awkward still. He will often email me to ask if I am coming to the meetings. The way we got talking a year ago was when he was flashing around a pen he has from south america and he made a point of flicking it around in front of me at the last meeting.The girl beside him asked about it as if she had been cued...just seemed odd.He often uses some of my expressions and turns of phrases in the meeting. In no way do I think he still cares..it was hard enough dealing with the rejection and now this...any thoughts on the game he might be playing Any replies to this tricky question would be much appreciated.
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reader, iAintYourAunt  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 I don't think it's a game. Maybe he used the other girl like he tried to use you? If not, maybe he's just being imature trying to make you feel a little awkward. Happens all of the time.
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reader, polarkite +, writes (16 February 2008):
 He obviously resents you for still liking him after you didn't sleep with him. Sucks.Best way to play him is to be assertive and not really give a crap about him. He's obviously being a d--k, by flicking around his pen (e.g. penis) around at you. I'd just say vaugely referential something to hurt his ego, like "Do you flick that pen to feel like a man?" Or if he e-mails you, you could say, "Gee, thanks! I didn't know I needed a mom!" That will deflate his ego and he should leave you alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): I don't think he is playing any games with you. I mean he dumped you because you wouldn't sleep with him. That's pretty straightforward. I don't see any signs of game playing there. As for you, why on earth do you still care? I mean some guy dumps you for such a degrading reason and in such a degrading way and you are still wondering about him and wondering about his intentions? Act like you have some dignity and just ignore him and quit even considering him or caring what he may be up to. Who cares? After what he did to you? Please. Don't give him the time or day in any way shape or form. Be proud, my dear. Or atleast act like it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 It seems he can't handle the fact you didn't sleep with him when he wanted. I guess he would like to "get even", but he can't, so he resorts to this silly game.
It must be hard to ignore him since you sit in the same committee, but I think I would sit as far away from him as possible, I wouldn't talk to him, and would ignore him.
Maybe this is a silly question, but, can you avoid being on that committee?
As you said, it doesn't seem like he cares about you. It's good that you can see it this way.
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