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writes:The man i've been with for three years keeps telling me he,ll marry me and he,s even gotten me a ring but wont make any plans,just excuses like when your son gets out of jail so he can be there,and when you stop saying your leaving,what he dont relize is I go to thinking in my mind that he doesnt care enough about me to marry me and it makes me feel like i,m wasting my time being faithful and doing everything a housewife would do and more yet this relationship will never go any farther.it,s wrong for us to live together and not be married and I would like to find a good church to go to but feel as if I have no right because I,m living in sin,my son comes up for parole in oct of this year,if he do,nt make it he,ll be in there for six years,he,s wrong if he thinks I,m going to hang around for much longer being no diffrent form all the other women hes had live with him.I,ve decided if he doent start making plans soon I,ll not stay with a man that dont care enough about me to marry me.What i want to know is am i wrong for wanting this comittment from him,I love this man with all my heart but if he doesnt really plan to marry me then he should stop playing games Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 April 2010):
Too many excuses and not enough action. He's basically got you pinned. Doesn't need to marry you because you're already doing everything. This carefully about whether you want to be in a marriage with this guy, or even a relationship
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reader, lautnerlove +, writes (10 April 2010):
 your right on girl. i'm only 14, but i can tell what your going through. Tell him to stop playing around. tell him that if he really cared about you he wouldnt make any exuses. and the best thing to know is that, it wouldnt even matter who goes to the wedding. All that really matters is that you two would get the chance to spend the rest of your lives together. and that he can either keep you and get married or you can kick him to the curb and find someone who will love and care for you and want to get married
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2010): I am in the same age bracket as you. I went though the same thing and it is tough as it is scary to think of starting all over. How I would handle it is to breakup and clearly explain why. He should move out and have the reality of what life will be like without you in it. A true life partner needs to compromise and he is getting everything on his terms right now and not repecting what is important to you. Most women want marriage, so NO you are not wrong in wanting more. I hope you make the right decision.
Best of luck!
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (10 April 2010):
 To answer your question - NO! You have every right to feel the way you do. Here's the problem - when some (not all) people live together like you two are doing - he's not motivated to take the next step. Why should he? He's got things just the way he wants them - you are performing all the duties of a wife - without the title of Mrs. Start packing your bags - and move out - that is only way he is going to make a move or make it clear to you that he's not serious about getting married. And to all you ladies reading this - and think it's fun to shack-up and play house (What's the big deal? Right?)- in the majority of cases the woman gets the short end of the stick - performing all the duties of a wife without the title and benefits that come with being his Mrs.
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