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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together since I just turned thirteen. We have a very passionate relationship most of the time. He gets extremely jealous of male friends or other male attention even though he's cheated on me 7 times. Do you think I am too young to be in a serious relationship such as this? :/
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 August 2010):
Cheated 7 times? Run!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): I believe it's your BOYFRIEND who's too young for a serious relationship.
He's cheated on you 7 times, plus he's controlling you. Why the hell are you still with this boy? You need to dump him, he hasn't been worth it for a second of the 4 years you've gave him.
It's a waste of your child - teenage life if you ask me.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 k c100 nailed it. This is not a healthy relationship and you need to run for the hills. The fact that he cheated once should have been an indicator, but 7 times is ridiculous. There is an old saying: "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Shame on you for staying with this sleazy excuse for a person. He does not love you. He never will. Please find someone who diserves your loyalty, not someone who abuses it.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I'm sorry to say this but this is not a relationship. Your boyfriend is using you, controlling you and walking all over you - this is not what happens in real relationships!
Why are you still with him after he has cheated 7 times and is trying to control who you are speaking to? Let me guess, the answer is "because I love him". Well that is rubbish, clearly your boyfriend does not love you so what is the point in staying with a silly little boy who does not care about you just because you have a teenage love for the guy?
Realistically staying with a person you met aged 13 for the rest of your life is highly unlikely. And in your situation, where you are just being used and controlled, I really hope for your own sake that you dont end up with this guy because you can do so much better.
This relationship is not a serious relationship, it is quite possibly one of the most immature, silly relationships I have heard of. And that is not a criticsim of you at all, you clearly are trying to be grown up by staying with him and still loving him. But he is the silly little boy that obviously wants to play the field and let his teenage boy hormones run riot - therefore this is not a serious relationship, it is just a teenage hormone driven riot where one person (i.e. YOU) is getting hurt and the other has his cake and is eating it.
He gets to cheat on you as much as he wants, control you yet still have a loyal girlfriend waiting around for him whenever he wants a bit of company (and I imagine you are having sex too - so he will have everything he wants on a plate). He gets the fun of cheating and being with other girls without any consequences because he knows he can do what he wants to you and you will put up with it.
I think you need to get rid of this idiot ASAP!! You can do so much better, dont lower yourself to putting up with this kind of man just because you have been with him a long time. Yes I'm sure he is your first love and it will be very hard for you, but this is not a real realtionship based on mutual love, trust and respect. Time to leave this guy to run around with as many other girls as he wants and find yourself a guy who loves you, and values you, and who wants to be with YOU only!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Hun, I think your bf is too young to be in a serious relationship... he's cheated on you seven times, why on earth are you still with him?
It is just showing him that you will accept his bad behaviour. I dont think this issue has to do with you being too young I think you need to reconsider your relationship and do the mature thing, and dump him...
Get back out there and enjoy yourself withou having someone acting jealous around your friends as well as cheating on you.
Honeygirl
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