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writes: Hi Will women notice a good looking but only 5'8" guy? Will they find him handsome? Or is it too short for them?... I cant stop thinking about my height for months. I'm almost 20 so i wont grow up anymore, and ive never had a gf before, never even got any attention of them. But i guess im looking good so height or my shyness must be the reason. Am i that hopeless? Is it true that girls want at least 6-7 inches taller guys than them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): Im with someone who is 5'9 and I'm 5'11!
It's really not a problem, we just have a playful laugh about it sometimes. He's 'short' for a man and Im a tall girl. But I'm sure he's my soulmate, love him to pieces and I wasn't gonna let our heights put me off him!!
Just look at Rod Stewart and some of the girls he's had anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): 5'8" is not TALL, but its not SHORT per se. I dont know about other girls, but for me, attitude is everything. Girls can actually be easily satisfied once you get to konow them. Although they talk a lot about boy appearances with each other, they dont mind as much once you get them into a relationship. And trust me, girls are more concerned with their own appearances rather than yours (or other boys). Hope this will make u feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): Heightism is real in dating. A five foot guy can try a hundred times harder and see his prize stolen by a tall man.
The thing that's going for you is that you're not that short so you'll find someone. In alot of countries you are at the bottom of average range which is not quite the same thing as short.
Just keep trying and don't get discouraged. If you feel that a woman is going to keep you in a friend zone because you are not quite to her taste get the hell out and try with other women. There are women that are very strict on height. If you hear her say something like he's so sweet but he's only x height about another guy - get the hell out.
It's really not that bad you just gotta try hard. They won't be queuing up for you like a tall guy though - so get out there!
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (10 May 2009):
Hi - 5ft 8 is a decent enough height for a man! - Don't worry!!
- Most women are less than that height anyway - so they wouldn't see it as a problem.
I myself am seeing a man who is about an inch or so smaller than me (and I'm only 5ft 5!) - but I absolutely adore him and couldn't care less what he looks like as long as he is with me!
If you find someone who TRULY loves you - height and looks will not matter.
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reader, Legioness +, writes (10 May 2009):
 Lol, honey you're not short :) I know quite a few shorter guys than you, heck I was even seeing someone who's 5'4"ish and i'm like 5'3''.. It was impossible to wear heals around him lol your height is pretty average in all honesty, if you can't get a girlfriend then it is because you're too shy, people want to know your personallity as well, try working on your conversation skills and self confidence :) x Becky x
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reader, djb +, writes (10 May 2009):
I've known guys shorter than you who have attractive, tall and loving girlfriends.It's only a problem if you make it a problem. I'm 6'4 and rather good-looking and when I'm single I don't get much attention from girls because I'm shy. Your attitude is the most important thing.
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reader, KiaGrace  +, writes (10 May 2009):
 I'm sixteen, a girl, and I'm only 5'1.
I'm not getting any taller.
There are alot of short girls out there too
and 5'8 isn't even that short.
No stress.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): I'd guess shyness is the problem here, not height - although even shyness can be an attribute girls find attractive - as long as it doesn't completely stop communication.
If your feeling insecure about your height, check out the chart of average heights here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_height
You'll see that 5'8" is really not that short.
And yes many girls are attracted to guys that are taller than them (although I've never heard anyone state a specific number of inches, but (1) most girls are shorter than 5'8" and (2) I've never heard of it being a deal breaker.
I have a male friend who's 6'5" and constantly bemoans the fact that girls aren't interested in him, because he thinks they think he's too tall. Actually he's just shy and self-conscious - much like it seems you are. Go figure...
And just for the record, my boyfriend is 5'8" and I think it's a fine height - and I'm 5'10"
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): lol you're 5'8"? just kidding. look, i'm 20, 6'0" and shy... just like you, good looking just like you... never had a girlfriend... just like you (it sucks) and when i was 18, 19 yrs of age, i was obsessed with my height in wishing that i was taller for the girls... just like you! i think the problem here for the both of us is the shyness. hey look on the bright side... at least you're not 5'5"... or shorter: )
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reader, nIcE +, writes (10 May 2009):
 p.s go into masonary labouring or something
it'll fill out your neck and muscles and make up for you being short.
you know girls like big necks and all
and stong backs
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reader, nIcE +, writes (10 May 2009):
my boyfriend is 5'9 and I love him... hes 21
you dont have to be tall to be loved or "sexy"
my boyfriend is sexy
hah
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reader, IMissYouxxx +, writes (10 May 2009):
Height does not matter !
my brother is 23 nearly 24 and he has never had a gf either..
he has been on doses of steroids every now and then coz he has a illnes..
the steroids have stunted his growth and made him "chunky" he has lost the weight but is still podgy :P his height is about five foot...
he thinks he looks stupid so he is too nervous to get a gf or even go out the house...
its so sad !
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT YOU HEIGHT !
everyone is different....
and tbh i kind of like guys that are same height or a little shorted so its not tu girls like them 6 r 7 inches taller than them x
hope this helps x
go find yourself a gf !:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Everyone has at least two lists: 1. What they are attracted to, and 2. What doesn't matter. Height is only one criteria. Just like muscles, thinness, hair color, on and on. So your height is on a huge market out there who's thrown it on their Doesn't Matter List. Trust me. I've had it bad for men your height.
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reader, saltwater +, writes (10 May 2009):
 Showing a female that you're comfortable with your own body will make a female more comfortable with your body as well.
If you're always thinking about or drawing attention to what you perceive as a problem with your body, other people will likely pick up on it.
The best thing you can do is to stop thinking about your height and just be comfortable with who are,and instead work on eliminating your shyness.
Girls want somebody who is comfortable with themselves and can engage a woman in conversation and make them laugh.
You could be 10 inches taller than a woman, but if you're unable to be entertain and engage a woman then your height would be no advantage.
Personality first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): dude ur fine im five foot nine its just shyness ive had 5 gf you just have to get out there
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