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writes:well me and my botfriend have been together about a year now well friends for six and well a couple weeks into our relationship he said he was going to an uncles house for a couple days. but he dont know i accidently read a text message from a girl saying he'll be over soon. well i knew what was going to happen but didnt say anything. well he was there for a couple days and returned with hickeys. but i didnt say anything. and about two weeks later he came straight out and told me he slept with her. yes i cried, but eventually i got over it. but recently i found a letter from her in his pants saying she loved him. i confronted him about it but hes denying he ever wrote her and write now i dont know if i could stay with him. am i scared to leave him? or were we friends to long i need him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2012): i believe i will leave him. and also the girl he messed with is his own cousins girlfriend. your all right i need to leave him. @aunt honesty well i feel that i had da right to go thru his phone because i was paying for it. plus he went thru mine i guess it only felt fair. but thank you all i know now friendship no matter how long wont last long no matter what
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 June 2012):
 Everyone is afraid to leave at first. But, when you think about what kind of future you would have with a liar and a cheater...the answer is pretty clear. You need to leave him. If you don't, you are setting yourself up for more pain and heartache. You deserve better. Whatever you do...don't leave him then accept phone calls, texts, and visits from him so he can butter you up again. These guys are pros at doing this. The sad thing is...there is a woman on the other side he is doing this too and she may not know he is with you. There is no excuse for his behavior...NONE.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (8 June 2012):
Tell him to go be with her and walk away. You don't need the heartache of being in competition for your own boyfriend.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (8 June 2012):
Hi there. Do you really want to stay with a cheater?
Surely, you wouldn't want a man you simply CANNOT trust.
And it seems that he really can't be trusted, wouldn't you say?
I believe you are scared of being alone, and so someone is better than no-one.
I'd rather be alone and happy, than with someone who I couldn't trust and constantly wondered who he was with.
And just NOT knowing what he was up to when he wasn't with me, would be completely intolerable.
There is no way I would even contemplate staying with him, knowing all that you now know.
And the truth is, you don't know that he hasn't been seeing this other girl the whole time you have been dating him, do you?
And he would only deny, deny, deny.
I think it's time for you to seriously consider giving him the flick.
You can do better than him, and you surely deserve it.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 You do not need him, and do not tell me you '' accidently '' read a message on his phone, you where snooping, and you obviously had a reason for that. Did you trust him back then? Maybe just curious? Either way you should not have went through his private messages.
Okay so he done wrong he cheated on you and he planned to do it. If that was me I would never have forgiven him for that, but you did and wanted to work on things. But do you really trust him now? You found a letter from her so my guess is that it is not over between them both, or else he is still hiding something. If it was me I would end this relationship.
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