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30-35,
*ebeccaa
writes:Hello, i just asked a recent question on this topic but its got worse, so this guy who has fancied me and my freind for ages, he sent both of us they same sweet texts and called us babe and put loads of kisses at the end of each text he always told us he loved us.I did have feelings for him and i think he knew that. Yesterday he asked out my friend and she said yes. The day before he asked her, he was still texting me all thease things and probobly my friend too. Me and my other friend (not the one he goes out with another one) are both in the same suituation so weve been avoiding them all day. He's been trying to talk to me and can't understand why im not talking to him, he keeps getting people to ask me why. Am i right in being mad at him? What should i do?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (25 June 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou, i have calmed down alot now, but like i said i will never trust him again and never talk to him the same and we will never be no where near as close as we were!
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reader, ilanah tromans +, writes (23 June 2011):
 You defineately have a right to be mad at him, hes been leading you on which made you fall for him and now hes going out with your best mate, i would be pissed off too hes just an example of a young boy who needs to grow up and stop leading girls on he must have no respect for you, it will just take time for you to calm down maybe just confront him and tell him how you feel because it might make it awkward between you and your best friend if it carries on, hope this helps !
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (23 June 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou, and no i dont want to forgive him, i might talk to him and be civil with him in the future but i dont think i will ever be the same with him, i thought he was different and a bit more mature
Thannks anyway
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 I think since this is a YOUNG boy, who is not your bf, whom you are NOT dating is perfectly fine to be flirting and dating other girls.He had no obligation. You fancied him and he chose your friend. I am sure that hurts. Young boys are fickle things and it was poor judgement on his part to be pursuing two friends at the same time. Girlfriends "compare notes" and learn that a lot of his flirtations are really not that unique or special.Yes, you have a right to be upset, but if he can not understand WHY then TELL him."You were flirting with my friend and selling us both the same product. Obviously what you have to offer is not that unique and I prefer to date guys who treat me more special."Then smile and get over it. There will be jerks in your life. Keep your distance and enjoy your life! You can do better! You are not obligated to him EITHER:)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Yes you are right to be annoyed with him, he was flirting with 2 girls at the same time which is wrong and a bit cheap. At least you had a lucky escape from him though - he clearly is a player and not a nice guy, I know you liked him but really, he sounds like a jerk and not the sort of guy you want to be with.
There is nothing you can do really - you dont have to talk to him if you dont want to. Maybe talk to your friend (who he is now dating) and explain you are upset that he was texting both of you at the same time, and that you liked him so you are of course a bit hurt.
Then its up to you whether you can forgive him and move on, or whether you dont want to speak to him anymore. As long as you move on though all will be fine - there are plenty more guys out there who wont treat you like this!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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