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writes: Hi. Am i being petty? I went with my partner to his works do on saturday night. We went last year and it was fantastic, he was so attentive to me. We have been together now 20months and engaged. Well, a woman who he gets on well at work sat on our table and he jut didn't seem to be giving me as much attention as i usually get and give him loads. As the night went on she ended up sitting beside him. They said chatting and i he laughed out loud, i asked him what it was about and he quickly turned around and said, 'NOTHING!'. I was livid, and asked him again. He turned back to her and they just smirked at each other. I said to him, quietly so she couldn't hear that i was going home! At that point he got up and walked me to the bar and changed completely, back to being he nice friendly self and said that he couldn't tell me because the person they were laughing about was standing just feet away. We ended up kissing and making up and the night was salavaged and he didn't chat to her anymore but it left a bitter taste in my mouth. I'm not the jealous type but when i said to him he said my 'funny head' was turning things around. I think he turned it around! I felt so small and childish being answered like that. Why can't i get this out of my head and how can i cope with things like that in the future. I am not a child - i am 55! Has anyone got any answers? i feel so down about it.
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reader, melschatbox  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I've had moments like that in my life also. Is he younger than you? I'm sensing that he may be. But, we all have moments of jealousy. Sometimes we can keep them to ourselves ..and then we just get over it or sometimes we can't. He treated you differently b/c ya'll are becoming more and more comfortable with one another. And, yes..he probably does do a little flirting with this girl at work. Was she alone? Just chalk up this one experience as a "misunderstanding"...but keep your eyes open.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 January 2007):
 He certainly was very rude responding to your question but if he doesn't usually respond rudely I'd let this one slide. If he frequently treats you with disrespect then you'll need to address it.
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reader, SERENE  +, writes (17 January 2007):
Hi there!
I really wish I could be like the other two people and say it was nothing, but I know from experience that your intuition and instinct will let you pick up, when something is wrong. It may just be a gut feeling that you have, and it wouldn't go, after all you were there left out while he chatted to the other lady.It could have been just the way he chatted,his tone, his mannerism, and just the way he paid her all the attention that makes you feel the way you do. Would he had moved from his seat, had you not told him you were going home
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reader, eddie  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 It seems you are the jealous type under certain conditions. What he told you makes perfect sense. You over reacted and almost created an embarrassing scene. It's possible you actually did. You're over analizing this.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I think maybe you were being a little oversensitive, especially since he apologised and gave a credible explanation why he wasn't able to tell you. These work events are really all about socialising with your work mates. I'm sure he didn't intend for you to feel left out, it was just the way things turned out but for now I'd try to forget it and move on.
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