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writes: I know this might sound a bit petty but when i see my partner she constantly talks about work its like i ask how was your day and then i get a full run down off her working day.But it dont stop there its almost the topic of conversation and when i change the topic it always go back to her work then again i change subject and yet again its her work again.And now i find its getting boring and i am starting to get bored with it.I love her so much but its just grating on me now.How can i go about mentioning this to her without it sounding the wrong way as the last thing i want to do is upset her.I have been patient as far as can with it and i honestly dont think i can go on with this.THANKYOU in advance for any advice :0) Reply to this Question
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reader, Juliette  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I have done this too and my husband complained ot me about it. I never mention work now and it had just become a habit. I was having problems at work at the time and felt sounding off to my husband was part of the deal. I was disappointed he couldn't see the bigger picture. However, every day I still listen to his work!
I think we are splitting up partly because we have little else in common. Perhaps you could look for common interests to talk about, politics, food, tomorrow's lunch, your car, holiday. Try to distract her to something more interesting.
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reader, Tine +, writes (25 August 2006):
 maybe she just feels as though work is a huge part of her day and she wants to share it with you because you have been apart. If you hate it that much dont ask her about how her day was, try telling her a bit about yours or even just steer off the subject all together. If she does keep talking about it, joke about it saying about how she always talks about it, so that you dont sound to serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): Make Monday nights a night where it is time for her to vent her woes for the previous week.
After that, it's back to dating and discovering one another.
Make Fridays that special night were work is not at all allowed to be mentioned.
Tell her how you feel.
I agree that she is over stressed about work and that she just can not seem to cope with it; counseling would be able to help her re-direct her energy in positive ways that won't effect the relationship.
Good Luck.
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 i think maybe shes finding work to stressful i think that you should suprise her and make her feel wanted and special. i hope this helps although its short. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): Wow, that sounds really annoying and you sound like a nice guy for not having blurted that out by now. Sounds like she is really having problems "leaving work at work." I don't think any fancy planned statement is going to work here. Tell her what you told us. You're interested in her work, you don't want to make her feel badly by bringing this up, but you also want to be able to talk about other things too. Chances are she doesn't even realize she's doing this, and if you say this in a gentle way I am sure that she will be receptive.
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