| A
age
22-25,
*
writes: Hi..so I am a relatively not girly person. I don't like wearing skirts or dresses and wear baggy t shirts. I usually have thick eyeliner and my hair is pixie cut short, almost boyish cut. But suddenly out of nowhere I am feeling the uncontrollable urge to be feminine and girly. I don't know why, as nobody has told me anything that might be pressuring recently, and I am really confused as to why all the sudden I want my short black nails cute colors and I want to wear skirts and cute tops and eyeshadow. I really don't understand where all of this is coming from and I don't know what to do, could someone please give me advice or help in some way? I feel so empty, like a part of me is missing Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 July 2014):
 It's pretty normal, go for it!
I have 2 daughter (2 are teens) who go from sloppy, to girly, to tomboy to "I don't know what to call that style", to cosplay outfits.... and it's fine by me. As long as they don't run around with their butts sticking out, I'm good.
They spend years having to wear school uniforms, so I think having all these options is making getting dressed a bit more fun. (little more frustrating too...)
Go for it, Have a pink day, or find a vintage-dress you like, or whatnot - and if people question it, just say you FELT like it.
There is no SET dress code for life. Some school have uniforms, yes. Some jobs have uniform, others have "dress codes" but for the rest of the time? Knock yourself out!
A
female
reader, Mistresskiki  +, writes (27 July 2014):
Experimenting is part of what it is to be human; I'm 43 and I got my first tattoo last year! Before that I went through a piercings stage. Some days I am 'girly', and others I am very tomboyinsh. It all depends on the mood I'm in!!
It is difficult, I know, when you have a sudden change but go with it, enjoy it but don't take it too seriously. Have fun with it.
Why not girly skirts, Doc Martin boots (and I mean the BIIIIG ones) and keep the gothy eye makeup?
There are NO rules - just you xx
...............................
A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 July 2014):
 Don't make this a problem. It is normal, age related, and healthy too. I mean, you would not want to be obliged , or to oblige yourself, to show the world ALWAYS the sam persona with the same attire same accessories same style etc.... for the rest of your life ?!... Like Queen Elizabeth of England :) ?... You are changing, you are growing, you want to experiment , even with looks. Why not ?. Nobody is just ONE thing, everybody has, or has the potential to be , multifaceted , with different sides of her personality pushng to emerge at times. Now the girlie girl wants to come out - let her, it will be fun. ( I'd skip the eyeshadow though ...at 13-15 chances are you won't pull it off that well, you'd look either like a child who plays dress up with mum's make up, or like Jodie Foster in Taxi Driver... )
...............................
A
female
reader, Aemita  +, writes (27 July 2014):
 Hey there. All of those feelings, all of those urges.. all are normal. Do not fret! Change is nice, change is needed. And just because you change the style of your make-up or wardrobe doesn't mean you're changing who YOU are as a person. If anything, it just adds to your personality. It shows how versatile you can become and how much you're able to get out of your comfort-zone, by trying out new things. You can always go back, don't forget that. Want to try pretty-pink polish on your nails? Why not... the worse that can happen is not liking it and then you can take it off. Same goes with the clothes and hair-style. No harm in a little change.
I was practically the same. Up until 15, I was not interested in make-up, clothes or anything girly for that matter. It's as if those things were none existing in my life. Then... I turned 15.. and I became little rebellious...heavy make-up(lots and lots and lots of black around my eyes), black nail-polish, baggy t-shirts(black also), jeans and baggy pants... I had no idea what a skirt looked like. Short hair and crazy colours (red, black, kind of a red-violet-ish type at some point). Then I turned 17, almost done with high-school and a strange curiosity caught my attention. I was interested in skirts, in blazers, dresses, high-heels.....ad because of it, I just jumped on that train and went with it. I experimented with lots of things. And believe it or not, at some point I was a girly-girl! =)) Oh such nice memories.
Now I wear pretty much all that suits the occasion. I still am that 15 years old *all-black-heavy-on-the-eyes* girl....AS WELL... as *all-pretty-dresses-and-pastels* girl. It all depends on my mood. Change is nice! Change keeps this world interesting.
AAaaaaaand I got carried away....as I usually do! But I do hope, I was able to help you in some way!
Take care,
T.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2014): Hormones are happening. Totally normal - embrace it gradually :) Save up to buy ONE outfit that has a skirt, cute too and girly nail varnish. Don't buy more until you know you'll wear it more often :)
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2014): You are just growing up and finding your identity. One day, you'll know exactly who you are and what you want to look like, although even when you are an adult, you could feel like a change from time to time. Just go with the urge, and you'll find out if you like looking that way or not. Experiment is key, honey.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2014): I think you're really young and you shouldn't worry about wanting to change the way you look... i think it's normal, you're personality isn't set in stone yet and it's ok to try new things. It doesn't mean that you stop being you, it just means that you are so much more than what you wear. You can be anything you want to be, and you should never feel bad or ashamed of wanting to try new stuff. I was just like you, not girly at all, thick eyeliner, wearing baggy pants... and then I started to change, wear different clothes, etc, but always keeping a bit of myself (sometimes a lot). I still don't wear skirts or dresses all the time, but when I feel like it I do it. Is not a bad thing.
...............................
|
