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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 years. Well the other day he forgot how to spell my name. Its not even a long complicated name. It actually a common name. Does this mean that he's lost interest in me or that I'm not of importance to him? I need some help before I make a too rash of a decision. You think I should let it go? Reply to this Question
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reader, Noaf  +, writes (6 March 2018):
Girl, I think that he truly messed up. Especially if you two have an appreciation for the "little things" in the relationship. However, there are many factors that could have lead to this terrible incident but they all seem less significant than him losing interest, so hear me out, yo.??Firstly, he or she may have sounded it out. This is when you have a word or name in your head and “verbally” speak it and spell it out as it sounds. For example, the word potato. In your head you’d say “ok, potat then a toe” but NO! there is no e. ?Another example that is certainly not based on real life events; Kiminuite, some may sound it out as Kiminuta!Secondly, your partner may be dyslexic, meaning he or she (most definitely he) is retarded - Swapping the (iute) to a (uite)There is no thirdly because this truly shouldn’t have happened in this first place. Your name signifies who you are as an individually and if he can’t remember how to spell it he should be ashamed of himself. If he didn’t apologise by hugging you from the back while your on the upper floors of your library, then you should consider dumping his ass.??
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reader, Froggyleroy +, writes (13 June 2016):
I just added this not able to spell my last name issue to the many problems in my 2 yr plus relationship. The fact was he couldn't even pronounce my last name that I found irritating. It's really not that difficult but I guess only my opinion..I realized there were way more compelling lists of negatives in our relationship.I realized in the overall picture, this was rather insignificant - he was a serious sociopath! So if u find the positive aspects of ur relationship far outweigh the negatives, I would just enjoy the positives. My prior relationship was 5+yrs & he never spelled my last name correct either. Maybe work with him once in awhile if he still doesn't get it. Good luck.
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (6 December 2010):
maybe he knows someone (like his cousin or something) that has the same name but spells it differently... whats your name?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): well I am dyslexic so if it was me I would find it a little harsh. when I was 16 I did't even know the girl friends names make one's up like nick names. come to think of of it I still do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Dump him now!!! It will only get worse! He'll be throwing babies off cliffs pretty soon and raising an army to take over the world!!!
Sorry, but seriously it means nothing more than he made a minor spelling error. Definitely let it go, we all make minor errors and forget little things like that now and again. I mean I forgot to put on a wash yesterday and yesterday is wash day, my girlfriend reminded me and needed stuff washed and yet still I completely forgot to do it. It happens, no big deal.
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reader, loveistheanswer +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Ok this story is completely real: we were over at this guy's house, and out of the blue he asked his friend, "Hey, how do you spell my name?" this guy was a bit drunk at the time, giving him a somewhat valid excuse, and his name had a slightly different spelling... but on the way home in the car that day my husband and I were laughing our butts off, and I will never forget that incident... moral of the story, nobody's perfect... did you know my husband doesn't remember birthdays for some of his immediate family?... true... I know his side's birthdays better than he does! why? because I'm the datekeeper, and he's the forgetful one, haha! In conclusion, you should definitely let it go, it means very little... if you picked up a book on learning disabilities you would read about all kinds of otherwise normal looking people who have quirky troubles with memory, spelling and learning in general...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): Hey hun. let it go!
He's only human at the end of the day - men tend to be a little like this!! My dad forgets my birthday and my age all the time!
I can understand why it 'sticks' a little, but if your not used to writing some ones name alot....u know the score.
Dont worry about it too much, we all have our little imperfections :-)
Take care x
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (5 December 2010):
 Please just let it go. I've been with my gf for almost 2 years and it has happened to me. My spelling isn't that great at all and I tried to do something fast. Now if he didn't remember your name that would be a problem. How often does he even spell your name out, it's probably not very often so it could easily be a simple mistake(s).
His spelling of your name has no relation to how much he loves you. I am questioning why you would jump to such a bad conclusion unless you are looking for a reason to support the fact that you think he has lost interest in you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 December 2010):
 It could mean he's a bad speller. What's your name, and can it be spelled in variations? For example, how Katie can be spelled Kati, Katy, Cati, Caty, or Catie.
From his spelling error, I don't get that he's lost interest in you.
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