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female
age
51-59,
*in333
writes:Hi, I am a 45 year old female with a wonderful 58 year old boyfriend who is considered obese. He is not lazy, but he does not make attempts to use our exercise equipment, take walks, or join me in any activities. I am much smaller then him, exercise regularly, and try to motivate him. I buy good foods, including fruits and veggies, low fat meats, and diet dinners. He claims that he gets "shaky" when he does not eat and I feel I am competing with his food addiction. He was laid off from his job over 2 years ago, but has taken up a his own plowing business. He does have a heart of gold, but am worried about his future health. He grew up poor, but according to him, always had food on the table. He also makes sure there is so much food in our house, and claims we may need it if there is a blackout or some disaster where we cannot obtain food. This is 2010, not the great depression! I do think he has a psychological obsession with food and it is his comfort blanket! He has been to the doctors, does not have diabetes, high blood pressure, any heart problems, or cholesterol problems. I believe this will catch up to him because his stomach is grotesque in size and he wonders why we do not have sex. His physical appearance turns me right off, but what should I do?? I do not want to hurt his feelings, but when I do, in the nicest way possible, he just agrees and says he will make more of an effort. I have yet to see it! Any feedback would be greatly appreciated! Thank you1 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): okay i had the same problem so i completely understand but if hes not trying to put in the least bit of effort even though he says he is, then maybe you should talk to him about seeing a doctor because this is a SERIOUS issue and i did it with my husband. but now my husband has lost a lot of weight all because i convinced him for us to go see a doctor for him.
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