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writes:I'm so frightend, I'm 16 and I found out about 5 months ago I was pregnant. The guy who got helped in this little creation of ours blamed it all on me and moved to a different school.I wouldn't dare tell my parents, they've done so much for me and I feel guilty. Even though I used condoms,it still happend. But I still havn't told my parents and I think my mom is starting to get suspisous. trust me I've tryed on numerous occations to try and tell them but, when I try to talk about it to my parents my voice dosn't come out. Im out of ideas, and writing a note is almost at bad as breaking up in a text message. I want to be honest with my mom and dad and tell them myself but Im so scared. Can anyone help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): Well im 16 and 4 months pregnant, and I told my parents when i was 2 months. All u can do is tell them and also include that u did use a condom. What can they do, it happened. Your parents will be a little dissapointed and its gonna hurt but really all they can do is support u and make sure u finish school and get a career goin and quick cuz now your basically a single mom u have 2 be mommy n daddy 2 support your baby
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reader, ummscorpio1030b +, writes (6 July 2009):
I'm so happy for you...see a real mother and a real father won't turn their backs...keep intouch
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reader, pebble  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Good girl. And now you can move on to all the exciting stuuf like planning your life for when the baby arrives, whether you'll be getting your own place, buying baby clothes etc...:D
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI told my Parents as soon as I got up this morning... I cirtanly got a bit of and ass chewing. But they accepted the fact that it was not intentional, and want to help. all your responces helped me muster the courage to tell them. T_T Im very thankful.
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reader, ummscorpio1030b +, writes (5 July 2009):
Yes I can help.... you have to sit down with them and tell them its going to come out sooner or later.... let them know that you made the right choice in pertecting your self but you still end up pregant. I know you are young but you must tell...I know your parent are going to be upset but trust me they are not going to turn their backs on you. But what ever you do finish school! Let me know how
everything went
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reader, birchybabe15 +, writes (5 July 2009):
 I'm seventeen but was 16 when I got pregnant. My family were furious and wanted me to abort but I refused hundreds of times and now I have a 7 month old baby girl who is my whole world. Tell your mum when your dads not in and if she screams at you take it don't mouth back that's the worst thing I did just apologise until your tongue goes blue. Explain that you know what you're letting yourself in for and that the dads blamed you and scampered. Everyone will be mad but they'll forgive and adore the new addition to the family. My mum kicked me out and now she's round almost every day seeing Cara. My family are closer now than ever now it may seem like hell when you first tell them but trust me every thing will die down and come together. It'll be hard for you tho my daughter was sleeping through from day one and she never crys I have an angel child lol and I still find it hard to cope read every book on pregnancy and labour and motherhood so your well prepared. Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): tell your mum that you and your bf went too far and it was accidental.if you used a condom then it shouldn't of happened, so im sure your mum will understand. if that doesn't work try talking to close nan or grandma i hope this helps x
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reader, vba67 +, writes (5 July 2009):
Tell your mom about the pregnancy, your suspicions about her knowing are probably right. Remember, she had you and knows the signs of pregnancy. Do not put yourself through the stress of hiding the pregnancy from your parents, they WILL be of great assistance to you during these trying times. Sure they'll be UPSET, but in the end their love for you will overshadow anything else.
I had a friend in college who hid her pregnancy from her mom (who was in another state) for about six months. Her boyfriend broke off all contact when he discovered she was pregnant, she was basically on her own. I talked to her about telling her mom and she finally told her. She was very surprised at her mom's response to the situation. Her mom was very supportive and even moved from Boston to Atlanta to help her daughter through this ordeal.
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reader, Chelle.x +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Just tell your parents. Don't be scared. Cos really what are they gona do ? Shout for abit, then you jus say "shouting isn't going to do anything isit" they will understand.
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reader, imcurioustoo +, writes (5 July 2009):
Im very sorry.. I can understand the immense stress that you must be under .. But you really do need to pull your mother aside and tell her.. That's very important.. You need pre natal care and all of that.. Your mother loves you and wants what's best .. Especially if you fall pregnant... I was pregnant at 16 too .. It was the hardest thing in the world to tell my mom. I thought she'd have killed me .. She was upset at first .. Then very understanding and mature about the situation.. I mean your pregnant.. Its not like your moms gonna scold you and beat you or anything.. It happens and it was an accident .. She'll understand... imagine though how your mom would feel though if her grandbaby didn't have the care he/she needs ... you need to tell your mom.. Have a baby shower etc.. You need to take care of your baby he/she is your main responsibility now and the dad of your baby sounds like a complete shitt head .. Your daddy needs to take care of him!!! Best of luck sweetie for you and the baby lemme know if its a boy or girl and the name and such!
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reader, Jes  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 the more time you spend hiding your condition to your parents, the harder it is for you to reveal the truth to them and also to hide it to everyone. Time will come, your tummy will be very obvious and you will experience something only experienced by pregnant women and there's no escape on revealing it. So better have the courage to tell your parents the truth now or sooner at least before they even know it to somebody else. Beside, no matter how angry they might get to you, it'll pass out. They are your parents, they will love you and accept you no matter what. Have the courage as soon as possible. At least, you're the one to tell it to them and nobody else. Face the consequnces early rather than facing multiple consequences of your delay of actions. Good Luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): you sound like a good honest person so dont make the mistake of being decisive and texting and or writing a note. Just find a convenient time to meet up with them or be alone with them and talk to them, tell them everything that happened, just tell them the truth.good luck ;)
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reader, pebble +, writes (5 July 2009):
Are you having any pre natal care from a doctor or a midwife? Or have you just not told anyone yet? Because you need to be looking after your baby and having your blood pressure checked etc...I think you need to face the consequences of what you've done. Everyone knows that sex makes babies and everytime you have sex, condom or not there is a chance of you becoming pregnant. If you are not capable of dealing with the consequences of having sex then let this be a lesson to anyone out there to NOT HAVE SEX. Jeez, I don't understand why young people need to be told so many times.Sweetheart you can either tell your parents now and prepare for the arrival of your baby or you can wait another 4 months, give birth in front of them and not have a cot, pram or any clothes for your little one.... Which would you prefer?Now you are a mother, your baby is your number one priority and you should be doing what is best for the child. The longer you leave it the worse it's going to get.Time to grow up and deal with what you have done.
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