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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hep,I am 27 years old I am about to get married but six months ago I started a new job, I love my job but have fallen for a 40 year old married woman who has two daughters 20 and 21 years old,she is so caring and looks great for her age, she cares about everyone so much and I love these qualities in her I can't help staring at her and I am sure she has noticed but has not said anything. I have dreams about her and its driving me mad (the sex is great), my girlfriend is a very jealous person and to be honest she is rather controlling, I have e-mailed this lady that I work with and we banter with each other nothing serious as I am too scared in case she doesn't feel the same, she gives me advise when I tell her my problems, she is great so so so so GREAT. What do I do about this please help me its driving me wild,
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
 This shows that maybe your fiance isn't the one for you so maybe before telling this other woman how you feel maybe you should decide whether to stay with your partner or not.
I wouldn't suggest going down the road of cheating as all it leaves is a path of destruction behind it. If this woman is married you will be putting one marriage and one future marriage at risk here so think very carefully before making a move!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 Well it appears to me your girlfriend is justified in her jealousy. It's OK to fantasize about women but you have to know where to draw the line. Your fantasy is getting the best of you and you're not concentrating on your primary relationship. This will happen throughout your life. Every attraction you have is not meant to become a relationship. They're just feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): This is to shortybabes
I am not seeing this other lady I just fantasise about her she is so so lovely I never thought I could possibly feel this way about someone but she brightens up my day and my life, does this make sense, I know its wrong but my feelings are my feelings and I cant help them..Eve says its not fair on my girlfriend I know this thats what is making this so hard.
The woman I work with has no idea how I feel about her, well she may think something as I cant stop looking at her, she is so understanding and I do believe I am falling in love with her I don't no what to do, she is married, do I let her know how I am feeling its killing me inside please help me
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 June 2007):
 First of all you need to stop emailing her. She is MARRIED and you are about to get married. She's probably flattered by the attention but if you keep this up you'll be opening up a BIG can of worms. You could lose your job over it, be humiliated when she turns you down and lose your girlfriend in the process too. Is that what you want?
Talking of girlfriend, a bit of advice for you DON'T MARRY HER AT THE MOMENT... you're not ready yet. If you are thinking and dreaming of another woman and you're not even down the isle yet then it's not going to work. Put it off until you're 100% certain or you'll be lucky if it lasts a year. Apart from anything else, it's not fair on your fiancee.
Eve
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reader, shortybabes +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Well babe this may sound harsh but do you want your lover or your girlfriend? It is not fair to be with both of them ok so the best thing to do is to think about who you really love. Have you fallen for this woman because she is fun, caring, is great in bed and that she looks her age or do you want to be with your girlfriend who must have these qualities as well as loves you, so do you want to be with someone because she is fun or do you want to be with someone who loves you for you. please decide. let me know how it goes for you hunni xx
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