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female
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30-35,
*ove_addict
writes:I have been placed in a confusing situation. I don't know what to do about it and i really can't talk to anyone. I, a little bit more than like this boy Nate. He has a girlfriend though. Everyone tells me he likes me and i'm kind of starting to realize its true. His girlfriend and him are about to break up after a year. i dont like talking down on people but she is a cliche bitch. Shes really stupid too. Anyways so we hangout at my best friends all the time, we watch movies and hold hands but nothing more, Suddenly i feel like a really bad person, holding hands isnt much, but i want so much more. Everyone tells me to watch out because he has a girlfriend. Does this make me a bad person?
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reader, love_addict +, writes (17 June 2007):
love_addict is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for the replies, i know he is not like that, we talked last year, but i kinda screwed up. His girlfriend hates me and i hate her, we've always had this relationship, but he wants to get to know me before we can go any farther. His relationship with his girlfriend is screwed up they aren't doing well at all they argue non stop. I want to get to know him, but somehow, the conversations lead to holding hands or something. We're going camping together soon for a weekend, me him and a few friends. Its a good chance to get to know him right? but im not sure how..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): Honey, be the bigger person and let him break up with his girlfriend first. Then you both can see where both of you guys may lead to in a relationship. You are too young for all this.
When boys/men tend to leave a relationship, they try to find someone else to "know". It's hard for boys/men to alone. They need a female in their life.
Do you know his girlfriend to be talking the way you to about her?
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 It doesn't make you a bad person, you're just a bit naive. Enjoy his company but no holding hands or getting closer until he's dumped his girlfriend. Your conscience is pricking you so listen to it and respect yourself. If he IS keen and he can see you're not interested in him as more than a friend while his girlfriend is on the go then he'll break up with her. Only then should you begin a relationship with him.
Eve
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reader, :):):) +, writes (16 June 2007):
I know how you feel, I've liked the same guy for a couple of years but he's being with his girlfriend since before I met him, it can be upsetting seeing them together.
Tell this guy you have feelings for him but you can't go on being the other girl and that he must make a decision.
Ofcourse you feel bad about her but its better this way than the two of you getting carried away whilst theyre still togther.Dont let him mess you about
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