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writes:Help!! Should I ask a guy out on a date OR go with the theory if he really likes me he will go out of his way to make contact? I know all about women's lib and all that but isn't it true that if guy really likes a women he will make a move?? Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): yeah i think a guy would deff. go out of his way for a girl if he really likes you. but if your not sure just go for it and see what happens. you'll never know till you try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): I am in this situation at the moment aswell.I have just asked a guy i like if he wants to meet up with me.Im nervous about what his response is going to be.I think its best to ask because if you wait for him to ask you could be waiting a long time ! plus if you dont ask,you dont know
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reader, blackbeltcadet  +, writes (13 April 2007):
If I were you I would ask him. Dont make it so much of a date, just hanging out alone... you know? Bt dont wait for him to present the question because what if he is too shy? Trust me when I tell you... its worth taking the risk. Be asserive! Good Luck
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reader, maria14r +, writes (12 April 2007):
yes it is true but just like there is shy women then there is shy men as well. if he looks shy to you then you should go for it. you should be the tough one and ask him out. there's nothing wrong with that. when i met my boyfriend i'm the one who started talking cuz he was too shy.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Most guys would rather do the asking. Plus I think you have a better long term chance of having a successful relationship if he does.
What you can do is create good opportunities for him to ask you. Create a situation where the two of you are talking comfortably (or email etc), and if he wants to date you he'll ask.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (12 April 2007):
 I can only say that both answers hold merit that you have already received.
We are not in the 1950's like you say and all about Women's Lib, you are too long dead so what is the problem are you shy?
This guy could be so tense about being knocked back that he feels that if he doesn't ask you out he can't be refused.
Find out if he is definitely single first, get to know more about him and he has friends that you know do a bit of digging. He will soon know that you really like him if you are asking questions about him.
You could just bite the bullet and say fancy a drink sometime whether it is coffee or a beer just be brave and what is the worst that can happen, he says NO!!!
Just find out a few more facts first and then see if you either get the response you want as he then makes his move or you just ask him, if you get his mobile number you could always text him, not as scary as face to face so I say just go with the flow.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
Take care.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (12 April 2007):
 no, alot of guys are shy, because they hold so much pride theyd rather the ladies ask them out. if you know youve got a good chance of him accepting your offer for a date then go for it, but if not why not get to know him more and become friends and see where things lead from there. what have you got to lose. just be confident, because alot of guys are attracted to confidence.
hope this helps x
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