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writes:Is it possible to love two persons at the same time? actually i am in a relationship, and we love each other a lot. i never want to loose him. but few months before i met a guy. he is my classmate. we also both love each other. but we have not confess it yet. I don't want to leave him. he does not know about my first love. i did not tell him because i fear that if i tell him about my relationship then he will leave me. i don't know what to do now. and i am very upset. because i love them both and i don't want to loose them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2012): Unfortunately, being in the situation you're in, its inevitable that someone is going to get hurt (including whoever you choose to be with because I think he has a right to know too as this is far from just a drunken kiss). All you can do is grab the bull by the horns, get it over and done with and then learn not to do this again in the future.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 July 2012):
 I think you can.
I had at one point when I was married to my last husband and still have very loving feelings for him, very very deep feelings for my now fiance as well.
I kept wishing that I could just have both of them....
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reader, rituu +, writes (13 July 2012):
rituu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone, now i think that i should choose one. because this is cheating. but the big problem is that it 'll hurt that person more than me. and i don't want to hurt anyone.
And i am very thankful to all you guys. thanks a lot for helping me.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (13 July 2012):
If you love two people equally at the same time neither is the right one for you, because neither attracts you enough to make the choice.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (13 July 2012):
 I think you can be attracted to two people at once, and I suppose it could be possible to actually love both of them. Within the realm of human experience, almost anything is possible. The problem comes with expectations. Usually people expect that you fall in love with one person and be exclusive. So, at some point you are going to have to choose. It is unfair to both of them if you don't. Make sure that you are not simply ATTRACTED to one over the other. Love is a very deep emotional connection and should be reserved for someone very special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2012): Put the shoe on the other foot, and imagine if it was your boyfriend who had you on one arm who he claims to love, but also had another girl on his other arm who he also claims to love, how would you feel?
Its not fair to keep each of them in the dark about the other because you want the best of both worlds.
If you can't decide on which one you want to be with, then I suggest you let them both go and have neither.
If you love them both, you wouldn't put them through this, as you wouldn't expect them to do this to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2012): You can't 'love' two people at the same time. And I know you will be slated in here for saying something like this. But you still have feelings and they can get a bit confusing.
By the sounds of it you need to choose which one you want to be with as you cant play them both. It's mean an unfair on the two peoPle you have feelings for. You can't have your cake and eat it I'm afraid
Could you not just take a break from your current relationship and figure which one you want. And then who you desire go for and let the other one be free and happy and find someone that does want them
Hope you figure your feelings out and just be happy and choose one! It's not fair on them both to be in this predicament :)
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (13 July 2012):
 I always go with the saying "If you fall in love with two people, you never really loved the first one"
That isn't always necessarily true, but in most cases it seems so.
For your situation I hate to say it sweetie, but you absolutely have to pick one. When I say that I mean either stay with your boyfriend and lose contact with the other boy or break up with your boyfriend and try things out with the other boy.
It is unfair to both of them to be splitting yourself in two, and it is also unfair to yourself. The sooner you sort this out, the better for all involved.
Good luck!
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