My LDR is stressing me out. I do want to keep the relationship. What can I do?
Q. My relationship is stressing me out. To give a bit of background. I was with my ex for 7 years and he cheated. Left me for her. I was single for 9-10 months when I got with my current boyfriend. We've been together 8 months now. Everything w...
A. 19 September 2016: "He thought that something so good will go wrong eventually and he wanted to be in control of that, so he train wrecked us."
This shows that when something is off, he's not going to talk to you about it. He's going to "manage" you rather than tre... (read in full...)
What can I do about my very controlling aggressive abusive husband? I want out of this abusive marriage
Q. Hello i have a very serious problem. My husband is very controlling and he has been disrespectful to my Mom and my children. He has called my daughters stupid bitches and he calls my son a dumb mf. He says thats just the way he talks but i hate it!...
A. 19 September 2016: I am so sorry you're going through this and I agree that you should leave! However, you haven't given any reasons that are holding you back or making it hard to leave, so I'm not sure what you're asking for here.
I suggest making as many plans to... (read in full...)
If I'm a good kisser, how likely is it that I'll also be a good lover?
Q. I've made out with 5-6 girls and I think I'm a good kisser because I know women hate men who slober over them and I try to figure out what does it for them and try to make them feel good. I honestly think I get more enjoyment thinking I'm g...
A. 19 September 2016: I think the fact that you care about the woman's experience and are willing to listen to her feedback and adjust means you'll be a good lover. Probably not the first time, that's nearly impossible. But soon enough.... (read in full...)
Feeling inadequate and don't know what to do
Q. This is pretty awkward to talk about here but when you need advice, you need advice. I CAN'T get intimate with people, im talking friends, family, potential spouses, everybody. It has a huge toll on my life. For some reason I can't give myself to ...
A. 18 September 2016: First, you're not weird or strange or anything. In the U.S. boys and men are raised to ignore all emotions except anger and just shut them off. It's really unhealthy and causes a lot of problems. I suggest working on feeling the whole range of e... (read in full...)
She's no longer into sex. What to do?
Q. The problem I have is. My wife is totally uninterested in sex and lovemaking, and has been for about 3 years now. Its to hot, its to cold, I have a headache?backache/earache whatever. We have discussed it and she assures me that it is not me. I h...
A. 18 September 2016: Try asking how she'd feel about you having sex with someone else. If she really doesn't ever want to have sex with you ever again, she'll need to learn to be ok with this. It's not fair for her to end your sex life. So if she's not interested (which ... (read in full...)
My Granny forbids me to go to a counsellor so can someone please explain if my Mom always hated me?
Q. Please don't tell me to talk to a consellor, my granny and pawpaw don't like it bc their Pentecostal. I live with them, their my dads parents and my dad is in Colorado. My mom is in Oklahoma and so is her dad but he is in a group home. He's ...
A. 18 September 2016: She didn't hate you. When she got pregnant she didn't even know you yet. She was young and had her own problems and wasn't prepared to care for a baby. None of this has anything to do with who you are. There could be several reasons she nev... (read in full...)
Some advice please on how to ensure that things do not go any further and do not lead to sex? Because I don't want that until I'm older
Q. I am 13 years old, female and is currently in a relationship of 4 months. My boyfriend and I haven't gone any further than straddling and French kissing until yesterday. No clothes were removed but there was grinding involved. And to be complete...
A. 18 September 2016: You need to have really firm boundaries and both of you need to enforce them. "Clothes need to stay on at all times" sounds like a good boundary for you right now. Tell yourself this over and over again to make sure you really feel it strongly. Make ... (read in full...)
How can I find a way to trust my boyfriend? Because I feel I can't trust him
Q. PLEASE HELP ME. I am at the END of my rope. I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and I just CANNOT trust him no matter what. No matter what he says or does. I CANNOT trust him. I CANNOT DO IT. It is making me paranoid, jealous, ins...
A. 18 September 2016: There is one option that *might* work for you. Or it might be horrible for you. You could give him permission to date other people, so long as he is honest about it and whatever other parameters you would need to feel comfortable with this. This ... (read in full...)
Is he busy or just not interested any longer?
Q. So, I've been seeing a new guy for around one month. Since our first time meeting he's been very open to talking and texting pretty much on a daily basis and initiates much of the conversation. I've seen him about 6 times during this month. He's ...
A. 18 September 2016: "At this point I would expect him to give up his weekends for me." This is an unreasonable assumption, unless you've discussed it with him and he's said that's what he wants. He probably is just busy, and he is allowed to spend time with people ... (read in full...)
At 47 am I too short, or too big, or not pretty enough to ever be asked out by a guy?
Q. I am in my 40s I never thought I was pretty or good enough to date any guys. I had never went on date before, no guys ever ask me out Sometimes I think there something wrong with me I guess I am pretty enough for any guys to ask me out, or smart...
A. 18 September 2016: There's nothing wrong with you. You're not too short. You're not too fat. You're not too ugly. Plenty of short and fat people date. Also, guys that only date thin women are obnoxious and will just annoy you in the long-term. I suspect you are ... (read in full...)
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