My close male friend's behavior seems like a slap in the face. I don't know what to make of it
Q. I'm a little baffled by the behavior of a close male friend who wants to be more. He otherwise is very engaging and warm but when there is any type of problem that I may be stressed, saddened or angered about and nothing having to do with him, he ...
A. 18 July 2015: Thanks for everybody's feedback. Wiseowl, you seem to be very intuitive and have given me insight especially with his reaction possibly being linked to his past. This is probably true. One clarification - although there are times I find him very ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend spends more time with his ex than he does with me!
Q. My boyfriend has been spending a lot of time with his ex girlfriend. This has been going on since they split up a year ago. I tried to be tolerant of the situation as I didn't want to control his life. I did however bring it up with him once an...
A. 7 October 2014: I agree with Aunty Bim Bim. There are those men who can't let go of ex's or even keep their social contact casual with their women friends. My ex insisted on having continual dinners with women friends from the past AND showering them with gifts. I ... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 24 September 2014: I read a post that really hit home. "What do I do with the expensive gifts he gave me?" In my case, I returned the last couple gifts that he gave me by merely putting them on his desk and walking out. He never said anything other than by e-mail to ... (read in full...)
He says we aren't in a relationship so am I being used?
Q. I have been seeing a man, exclusively, for over 2 months. He lives in a town about 20kms away. I spend 3 or 4 nights a week at his place. We share his bed, kiss and cuddle, but have discussed the fact that we would wait before we have sex. We are ...
A. 24 September 2014: Some men seem to be like this because they are afraid of or simply don't want commitment. There are those who seem to want the attention and love from a woman but with no strings attached. I can identify with some of the women who post here but can ... (read in full...)
Significant other and friends of opposite sex--should they limit their contact?
Q. I'm really curious on what others have to say about this. Here's the thing: Before you and your significant other began dating, they had a co-worker/friend of the opposite sex. It was platonic, but they hung out a lot. After beginning your rela...
A. 19 September 2014: I will use the same response that I used for another person a few minutes ago. To me it's unacceptable. This does not mean that they should break the contact. An e-mail, a greeting, a chat all seem to be fine but if you are serious about each other, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went out with a female coworker and I didn't like it. Should I go out with a male to see how he likes it?
Q. Last night my boyfriend told me that he had a super nice dinner with a co-worker/friend because they were leaving. He then told me how the waiter thought they were engaged and he laughed and told me how he said no. Wait what? The friend was a gir...
A. 19 September 2014: This brings back pretty bad memories for me. If your relationship is serious, I think it would have been OK if you had gone along or least mentioned beforehand that it was a special occasion. I don't buy that he should routinely do this as my ex ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a ridiculously attractive average looking guy?
Q. There have been a very very small number of guys who said they've done some kind of psychological exercises to become more attractive to girls and now they get checked out everywhere they go by a LOT of girls and don't have to say anything special ...
A. 22 July 2014: I would say they are very outgoing and flirtatious. They like to flatter women to peak their interest. They also like to get their attention by acknowledging birthdays, giving them gifts, etc. and coming off as the nice guy. Perhaps they do this to ... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 18 July 2014: Thank you Mark. Putting my thoughts into writing and seeing logical responses puts things into perspective and eliminates doubt. It really does help. I will do just that. Still unbelievable to me that someone who professes to love you and to be ... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 18 July 2014: Well, believe it or not after making myself clear, he's still trying. Makes any excuse to come into my office 2-3 times a day. I know this guy won't change......no doubt about it. I believe he's the type of character who thinks he's entitled to ... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 3 June 2014: Thank you Mark. Thank you so very much!! You seem like you can be a very good friend!... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 2 June 2014: Update: He wants to try again with the condition that he see past women co-workers. He explains that they are people he has mentored and cares about but loves me. He would like to catch up with them now and then to see how they are doing. Because I ... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 26 May 2014: Also for the record...... I will be returning his gifts particularly the piece of jewelry which serves for nothing but bad memories. Thank you all for your thoughts. I find it very therapeutic. In the past when we had disagreements, some of our ... (read in full...)
What kind of man lies like that?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for the last couple of years. The connection seemed to be undeniable. He committed to me giving me an expensive piece of jewelry. We connected on FB. After little time, I realized that the immense majority of his friends ...
A. 26 May 2014: You know he was actually cheap and crude at first, his crudeness especially was one the reasons I wanted to walk away but was difficult because I was falling in love. There were times that he seemed genuine. When he tried to solidify the ... (read in full...)
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