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writes:There have been a very very small number of guys who said they've done some kind of psychological exercises to become more attractive to girls and now they get checked out everywhere they go by a LOT of girls and don't have to say anything special to clearly pique their interest. They mention in many forum posts the attention they get, that their 'energy' has changed by doing the exercises and girls just pick up on it. I didn't get the sense that they were boasting, just providing information on what's possible. It seems likely they are lying because I don't know of any guy that attractive and other guys who do the same exercises don't get the same level of results (a little improvement, but no where near as much). For the life of me I don't know why they would go to such lengths to lie.Have any girls come across a guy that is THAT attractive in spite of his average looks? Apparently such a guy is SUPER rare. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 July 2014):
 That would be my husband. Not that he "did any kind of psychological exercises and became a magical unicorn", but he is without doubt an Alpha male, with extremely good social skills, good sense of humor, brains, and enough attractive traits to "fool" the eye. He is also very skilled in reading people.
I don't think there are many psychological exercises that can work this way, I think it's PART skills (trial and error) and part personality.
And yes, I would without doubt classify my husband as more towards average than attractive, he is however attractive to me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 July 2014):
 NOT rare at all...
My husband is short and snaggle toothed with a military fade haircut and is very myopic... he's as hot as they come... why? Because is is assertive and cocksure of himself. Not arrogant. Not nasty.. just secure. It's very attractive.
The most attractive part of a man is what's between his ears....
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reader, LourdesM +, writes (22 July 2014):
I would say they are very outgoing and flirtatious. They like to flatter women to peak their interest. They also like to get their attention by acknowledging birthdays, giving them gifts, etc. and coming off as the nice guy. Perhaps they do this to compensate for their average looks. I don't know but I would agree that they are dominant, manipulating and even liars. They don't take no for an answer while using whatever means to meet their goal. An alpha dog......probably. A dog?? In my experience, absolutely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): Yes, it's called being a socially dominant male or, to put it bluntly, alpha male. So basically, the guys that go around talking to everyone and take up a huge presence are generally considered "ridiculously attractive". One can call it charisma, charm, or just social intelligence.
Perhaps being "socially dominanat" is the most effective girl magnet, but when it comes down to it, girls really do fall for the nice guys, too. If you just ask them how their day has been and truly listen to them, that is tremendously attractive.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Mistresskiki +, writes (22 July 2014):
A LOT of what people find attractive is down to body chemistry; if someone (on a mostly subliminal level) smells right then they are (at that point in time) the right one.Sure, there are 'tricks one can play - mind games - to get someone into bed but if the physical attraction isn't there then I doubt they work that often, and certainly wouldn't be the basis for a long-term relationship.People who do exercises to boost their self-confidence will have an edge over the trembly sweaty chap who shakes every time a woman even looks at him, that is for sure, and doing something to boost self-esteem, where it is lacking, is a good thing. Also, did it occur to you that they are so insecure, that they would, indeed, lie to complete strangers (who can't verify a thing) about their prowess simply so others don't see them as a 'loser'? People do it all the time irl so why would forums be any different?Talk to older women, talk to girls your own age, and develop your own style, your own approach. You will get knock-backs most of the time but you will get some encouragement too. If you don't try at all, you will get nothing in return. Treat it as a game, don't take YOURSELF too seriously, and celebrate every date, every phone number and every smile.
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