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writes:yesterday i left my boyfriend of nearly 3 years and moved in with my mum with my one year old daughter.my question is did i do the right thing. i have many reasons to leave him, he is controling, i do everything for him and it just isnt enough and he is more interested in his friends and drink than me.i miss him so much already i feel as thouhg i cannot live withot him. when i left he luahged because he knows i will come back.im so scared i dont think i can do this myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your encouragement. i didnt think strangers would make me feel stronger. thanks again.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (9 April 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
Don't go back to him. He laughed when you left because he knew you'd be back? Well don't give him the benefit of being right. YOU have the last laugh, because soon you'll be on your feet and doing better then you ever were with him.
Prioritize your daughter. She needs help growing and becoming stronger... show her that you and her don't need men like your ex-boyfriend in your lives. Both of you are worth more and deserve much better than that. Prove to your daughter that you are strong and set a good example for her.
Hang out with your Mom and ask her for support. She can also help you stay strong (what else are Mother's for?). I think you've done the best thing for yourself by getting out of your situation.
You'll have the last laugh, sweetness.
Stay strong,
xxIndia
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reader, maofone +, writes (9 April 2007):
stand your ground! dont go back! its not worth it! if you go back you're giving him ALL of the control.there are decent men out there and in time you will find one.in the meantime.be strong,get your stuff together for you and your childs sake,only deal with him when it comes to visitation with Your child.you might just want to go through court to get visitation established.every time you're tempted to go back just thhink about how the bad times between you two had were far more outnumbered than the good times and you should snap out of it.good luck to you and your child
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 April 2007):
 It sure sounds like you did the right thing to me. I know it's scary being on your own with a small daughter, but try to relax and think about what a jerk the guy is and how badly he treated you, not to mention what a bad example he is to the baby. Try to take each day one at a time and let the future take care of itself for a while. He needs to grow up and if you were there doing everything for him all he needed to do was party all the time, now he'll have to wash his own clothes, buy his own food, cook his own meals, etc... Do not even consider getting back together if he doesn't shape up. Each day will get easier, trust me. You'll be fine honey.
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