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writes: Hi Cupid.I am 26 and have been single for about 5 years. There is a girl (roughly my age) I have liked for a couple of years. I never used to see her very often as she is a friend of a friend's girlfriend's sister (complicated I know) but have been seeing her more recently due to mutual social groups. I have spoken to her a couple of times but never really had a 'proper' conversation. It's her birthday this weekend and our mutual social group are going out to celebrate. I am definitely going to speak to her but wanted a few pointers as the initial 'breakage of the ice' is what I struggle on and am very self conscious when it comes to speaking to the opposite sex that I like.Hope you can help.A N Onymous Reply to this Question
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reader, kelly16 +, writes (28 September 2005):
hey awww don't worry why not compliment her 'you look nice', 'how are you', 'would you like a drink' to get the conversation flowing, then im sure your think of other stuff, and im sure she will wana no stuff about u.
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reader, Delirius +, writes (27 September 2005):
I recently saw a movie called 'Hitch' with Will Smith in the lead role. I highly recommend you watch it for some tips. Like concentrating on what she likes and having intelligible relevant information relating to her areas of interest which you could use to start or enter a conversation. You could try asking a loaded question, so that she is able to launch into a subject she is passionate about, allowing you to sit and listen (make sure you listen) giving you a bit of relief from having to talk too much. She may also be just as nervous as you too, this is often the case.
So, find out her passions and do some research. Also, think about your own passions and research some short anecdotal information about them, to be able to use in conversation.
As a starter, you could ask her how your friend of a friend (or whoever it is) is going with some issue or life in general if you haven't seen them for a while and then move to "I was reading something interesting the other day about (her subject of passion), what's the go with that really anyway?"
Good Luck, oh and don't forget to wish her happy birthday and definately kiss her on the cheek at least(if your able to do this try and pause as you pull away, make eye contact and give her a big smile),then you could comment on how nice she smells or something. She may just notice you in a more romantic light.
P.S. You are supposed to feel all the butterfly stuff, their a part of the good stuff!!
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