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*oumeking
writes:would you ever want your ex to apologize to you after a breakup?me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago. and we haven't talked in about a 1 month now. so we had a really bad break up and she's not responding to anything im saying. so i decided to stop talking to her so we have been with no contact for a month now. last words she said was that she never wanted to her from me again. but again we were each others first loves and we changed each others life do you think i should apologize to her for being a douche throughout the relationship and for making things worse when we broke up? i dated her for 2 years. and im not hoping to get back together because we are in different states and i have moved on. but i feel like a good man should always apologize anything wrong that he did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): How would you feel if it was the other way around and she was the one that treated you like a douche bag? How would getting a sincere apology from her make you feel? Apologize to the girl and don't use the word 'but' because it'll be like you're trying to blame her for treating her crud. Only apologize to her if you mean whether she takes you back or not. I was a major asswipe to the love of my life and lost her to another man all because I was to egotistical to apologize to her. She's married now and the last time I saw her she told me that she waited around for 6 years to get an apology from me because that's all it would have taken for her to rekindle with me and marry me. I kick myself everyday and as wrong as it is I'm waiting around on her hoping her marriage crumbles so I can be loved on top of the world again. That girl gave me the real deal love. I was an idiot for letting my pride give her what she due my apology. Regret sucks man. Don't be a weak loser. Man up and do right by her. Don't risk losing out on the love of your life like I did.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 I believe you should always apologize if you did something wrong. Just don't expect that the apology will give you back the girl. Apologize for apology's sake.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (7 March 2011):
 depends on where she is in the grieving process; closure like this might be helpful.
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reader, Aunty Honest  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 I'd say go for it, but don't expect any response. I had an apology once, and at the time I was just so furious about everything it was pointless, but when I thought about it later, after I'd moved on, it was nice he'd cared enough to feel badly about how things had gone. Just be honest, and don't expect anything in return (apart from perhaps, some abuse!)
Hope that helps
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (7 March 2011):
 Yes, as long as you are not trying to get back together it would be ok for you to apologize to her and tell her she deserved better. Maybe she already knows all that but you still need to get it off your chest so you can be at peace with your conscious and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): I believe you should apologize. It would not only show that you have the guts to do that but that you have also matured. If you truly believe you did her wrong then you should. It would make you feel better and give her better closure with your relationship.
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