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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend seems to have a porn habit and says he enjoys the visual stimulation he gets out of it. Problem is, over the last few years our sex life has dried up - to the point where we both don't even make an effort for each other anymore. I still have huge drive, but due to work and lifestyle i have learnt to shut out because i was sick of begging for it. He is still caring, lovey duvy and all hugs and cuddles, that's why i was mortified when i found porn on his computer.I love my sex and i am starting to feel like i am being ripped off my youth and womanhood. He's suggested that he has a problem with low sex drive hence would use porn occassionally for relief. Only recently, he has asked for my help and support with counselling. I am trying to be the understanding partner and i want to help him get his drive back. Since he has indicated that he likes the visual stimulation, i am thinking of making an erotic video just for him. On the video, i am also planning on getting some photos taken of me dressed in fantasy roles i.e.french maid, james bond spy etc.- and attached to each role will be an email address where he can order me online.. and i will turn up at his house dressed in that role. Has anyone done this before? If not, would this turn on guy that has gotten bored of his girl..or am i wasting my time? We've been together for almost 10 years.
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reader, B and T  +, writes (7 June 2008):
Several issue; 'dress up' will probably help interest him, works for me. Do you just have intercourse or do you make love? Do you explore his body and he yours? do you perform oral sex on each other? massages, lotions, showers together? Guys produce sperm daily and a feast or famine approach to sex (most women do this because they cycle) drive a guy to finding his own release and it's hard to bring him back. Maybe you need to volunteer helpng with his 'release' and he'll reciprocate.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (7 June 2008):
 well if it helps any that would turn me on. hes lucky to have you. i think that you might be right, this really could help your sex life but its hard to say for sure because i dont know your boyfriend. i recall telling my girlfriend once that i wouldnt look up porn if she gave me naked pictures of her lol. i dont know how much help i was but good luck.
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