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writes:Hi, Over 6months ago i started visiting my local bank as id moved house. I really started liking one of the counter girls and when i was lucky enough to be served by her we use to have a friendly chat normal stuff. I've really started liking her loads i know shes single not sure what to do? Would love to go out with her but shy to ask her!!!I'm 33, i think shes around 24. please help!!! I visit the bank twice a week just to see her!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): I would show caution. From a female point of view it can be unnerving for a guy (in your case a customer) to suddenly ask you out - it can feel intimidating rather than flattering. Choose your method carefully so that she can have time to think rather than be put on the spot. A guy at work who I never normally worked with apart from this one off project (it was a large organisation) remembered something I said in passing about watching 'Strictly come dancing' every Saturday night on my own with a bag of chips for company.. and a couple of weeks later he sent me an email saying p.s. if you fancy a night out dancing let me know and he also gave me his mobile. I had a think about it for a couple of weeks and then took the plunge and text him to arrange it! 2 years later we're still together. Maybe engage in a conversation see if you can find a hook - it is a fine balance as you don't want to appear a creep. I wish you luck - just be friendly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Anon. male, he didn't say he goes in twice a day, he said twice a week. Anyways, that's really hard. Do you know she's single? Maybe go in one day after you've had a drink or two, maybe have a friend drive you..if you have a close enough friend that u could confide in. I know for me anyways, drinking gives me courage! Just say "would you like to go out sometime"? That's all it takes. But I'd try to see if she's taken 1st, don't wanna feel stupid..but if you do and she rejects you, no big deal. Women feel flattered to be asked out b/c most times when they're in a relationship their partner doesn't make them feel wanted anyways, at least that's my experience. If she accepts, ask for her number. You don't want to be the one holding the phone, waiting for her to call. Good Luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Love is not for the feign hearted. You got to take a chance and a risk of rejection.
Get her phone number . Tell her in case there is any emergency and you need to consult her.If she is interested, she will give it to you.
You could invite her to the movies or a date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): okay, first off, dont visit the bank twice/day. as a matter of fact, dont even go in for, ahhh, say 3-5 days. find strenght within to resist. then, go wearing a big smile, tell her that you missed her (after few comments on the weather) and, you'd love to have a cup of coffee. coffee, with her, that is. that simple, fella.
there are few things more trapping and bad as potential chances wasted. life is short and fragile, whats she gonna do, blow you off? great, she got to know you a bit, and she doesnt want to go out with you, fair enough, you can move on and cross her. but not knowing is worst.
and, really, dont go in as much, you'll seem weird and insecure, and nobody likes that.
take it easy, fella
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Why not fill out a deposit slip with you name and number and ask her out for a coffee - no strings attached. It's worth a shot! Women are more likely to go out on a first date for a coffee or lunch, because it's a short amount of time and everyone can say that they have to go back to work, so it has a finite end. Dinner is a lovely invitation, but it is easier to turn down as a first date when it's someone that you don't know very well, so I'd stick to the previous two options. Good Luck!
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reader, autumnleaves07 +, writes (2 February 2008):
Difficult...why don't you just slip her a note saying 'here's my number...call me if you're interested'? Might be a bit easier than asking her directly if that's what you're nervous about. Also, just to check, how do you know for sure she's single?
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