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writes:Hello,A few days ago, my "ex-girlfriend" recently got back in touch after 2 month without so much as a hello or goodbye. My ex and I had alot in common and i really start to care for her. But we never really had a relationship. we just use to see each other, go out to a club then i'd stay at hers or vice versa. I started to get bored of this and i asked her if she wanted us to become a proper item and she would always change the subject or go quiet and not answer me. One day she wouldn't return any of my phone calls or texts. After 3 weeks i just decided that everythings over and ill move on.I met a new girl last month.We don't really have a great time together but it feels like a proper relationship. But on monday I got a phone call from my ex asking if i wanted to go up to hers and stay for the weekend. I told her that i would love to get back together with her but only if we had a proper relationship rather than only going out and staying round at hers. She said she'd think about it. I got an email off her saying she wanted a proper relationship and wanted us to become a couple.Would it be right to leave my current girlfriend for her? and would it be a good idea to try and make things work with my ex?Many many thank,JP.s really sorry about the length of the story. But its really good to get everything off my chest.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (18 September 2008):
hiyah this is going to sound really bad but i think you should leave them both- you are not happy in your current relationship this isnt fair on any body and so it would be best to get out now but goin back to your ex i dont think is the right thing to do so shes ready for you now? shes says and you follow? i think shes treated you unfairly in that you moved on and she comes back into your life and your still willing to give it up for her! yes this shows love but dont you think she feels shes got you where she wants you know? its really unfair but your playing her game. At the end of the day the discions yours and you will make the right one for you but you have to look at it from all angles yes it seems a good idea now but a lots changed since you were last together
Shes was always aware you liked her and i feel she sees you as secruity now she says shes ready. The past doesnt go away and although she may appear more mature and in the no of what she wants why should she get the say? you tried to all that time ago and got nothing in return, its up to you but what ever you decide to do dont forget your current gfs feelings its not her fault and if she likes you this could really hurt her.
The best thing to do? go back out there and start a fresh for yourself with somebody new words are easy its the balls to do it that count best of luck let us know how it goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): Don't waste your girlfriends precious time. However if you do go back to your ex, make sure she don't mess you about, she sounds like she doesn't know what she wants.
Good luck
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reader, xXxLisaxXx +, writes (18 September 2008):
You are clearly not happy with your gf therefore even if your ex wasnt on the scene it isnt wise to carry on this relationship. Your feelings for your ex seem to be alot stronger but because of the past your weary which is good. If you stay with your current gf then your only going to end up blaming her for not finding out what could have happened between you and her. If I was you, take the risk with your ex she seems to have had a good think about what she wants and you never know you may find everything that you have ever wanted. But always take caution, if your still unsure get back in touch with me. Hope this has helped and good luck!! xxxxx
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 It'd probably be a good idea for you to go back to your ex if you don't even really have a good time with your current gf. I know I wouldn't want a guy to be with me if he didn't enjoy it. If it's the ex that you want, I say go for it. You haven't been with your current gf too long, so it shouldn't be that hard for either of you walk away from this. Go with your feelings. If the ex is ready for a relationship, then do it.
Good Luck!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (18 September 2008):
 I think it would be very right to leave the current girl for the ex. Because there is only 1 thing more annoying in this world than people not being able to cope being single, and thats people that use anyone just to not be on their own.
The ex sounds about as 'ready' as you for a 'proper' relationship.
So i happen to think letting the current girlfriend move on, and meet someone mature enough to want to date her for all the right reasons, rather than be with her even though 'they dont have a good time with them' just to avoid being single.. is the wisest move ever.
C xxxxxx
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