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writes:Hi guys. Im 37weeks pregnant and my bf is not here all the time and ive been insecure.anyway lately ive been on the fone with a guy i dated whom we neva broke up but he is in another province and we saw ea other in 2008 i think.but we dig each other.was wonderin if i could make him my sex partner.i realy like him and so does he.oh and i told him im preg.he is fine with it.but im only going there december.what do u think?i love my bf,would it be cheating?
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reader, vicky121087  +, writes (19 July 2010):
hi, yes it would be cheating, it would not be fair on your bf. i think you should talk to your bf about feeling insecure when he is not around. it wouldnt be a good idea to have sex with ur ex. you are prob felling like that becouse you are pregnant and your hormones will be all over the place.
i think you need to think about your baby and how this will effect it.
it might make thing easyer if you talk to you bf and get things out in the open about how you are feeling
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Of course it would be cheating! How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend was having sex with his ex?? I'm sure you would be devastated and you would have no doubts it is cheating!
The issue here is that your boyfriend is away a lot and you are pregnant, meaning you are lonely and insecure, hence you are seeking love from other men. But if you get a "sex partner" you are not going to be any happier, you will just ruin your relationship with your boyfriend and ruin your child's life.
You need to talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you are feeling - explain that you are feeling insecure and now the baby is nearly here you need him to be around a bit more to support you.
And please, think about your baby in all of this. Your child needs a stable family home, with a mum and a dad around to raise it. The child needs mum and dad to be happy together, where mum and dad still love each other and enjoy being together. If you start having sex with other men this will destroy your child's stable family home, and create a big mess where mum is sleeping around with other men and dad never sees his child anymore because he cannot bear to be around his cheating ex partner.
If you love your boyfriend and want to be a good mum you will not cheat, and instead you will try and make your relationship work - you will talk to your boyfriend and try and overcome your insecurities instead of taking the easy way out and cheating.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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