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*ikitaDante
writes:Okay, so I really need help trying to figure something out. Me and this guy have been talking/flirting for a couple weeks and we've just been getting to know each other. We were talking just recently and he asked if he could ask me a personal question. I usually have my guard up with people but I was having a really good time and didn't really take his tone seriously. He asked if I was a virgin, and it took me by suprise, and I just told him yes. I am a virgin but I wouldn't have told him outright like that if I wasn't caught off guard like that. His reaction wasn't bad, he asked if I was serious like he didn't believe me than just said, 'okay, cool' and we kept talking about something else.What could be going through his head? He's a few years older than me, and I'm in my late teens (it's all legal) I'm thinking that since I'm not a 40 year old virgin, it isn't that bad. I'm just younger and didn't want to give it up to my past boyfriends. But I don't know for sure if the fact that I'm young makes it less pathedic or weird. He isn't a virgin, by the way. He is actually pretty experienced. so did I screw up by blurting that out? Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (20 July 2010):
He could be thinking,
"Wow! A virgin! I've never been with one - I wonder what it feels like? It'll be a real accomplishment to make her give it up. How much will it take to do her?"
He could be thinking,
"Still a virgin? She's probably a prude and like a dead fish in bed. If she decides she wants sex, I'll give it to her but I'll keep looking for a gal who knows what she's doing and how to make it good for ME."
He could be thinking,
"Hey - she probably thinks there's more to sex than good times and orgasms. If I get to sleep with her she'll probably expect me to be around for a while - which might be kind of cool."
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Why is your being a virgin is going to be "bad" at all? It is more likely a positive attribute in his mind than a negative one.
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reader, SlightlyLost  +, writes (19 July 2010):
No, you didn't screw it up; if he ever wants to be with you then he needs to accept you as you are. I am in a kinda similar situation but my guy is pressuring me into sex and I am breaking it off. This guy seems like a decent guy, and he was most likely just curious. If howeever he starts making you do things that your not ready for RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!
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