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writes:simple quistion for the ladyswould a loved and a sexualy satisfied women cheat in her husband/spouse ?and if the answer was yes what would be the most common causes Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): no. if she does then something was missing in her marriage that the affair partner could offer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): A loved and sexually satisfied woman would cheat on her spouse/SO IF she is incapable of love, compassion, and respect. In other words, if she is a TAKER and not a GIVER... she'll take and take and take some more... from anyone and everyone as long as it is gratifying and feeds her ego.
A TAKER will always be a cheater, male or female.
I've been in a sexually unfulfilling and unloving relationship with my husband for a long time. I don't cheat because of who I am, not because of what I'm not getting.
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reader, Mugzie69  +, writes (13 November 2010):
 I agree with Clueless Gal: When such questions arise, we spend much time talking about morality. But as I’ve said time and again, behavior is making morality increasingly irrelevant. This is not to say that the moral issues and promises don’t matter. It is rather to recognize that no matter how inept, out-of-shape or insensitive you think (s)he is, we live in an age when anyone can find someone.
If you don’t look after your mate, someone else will be glad to do it for you. We can blame her or him all we want; but as CG rightly sees – in the final analysis, it comes back to what we ourselves do. I know of a situation where one party spent 25 years pushing out of their arms someone who really did want that person. I can only ask, ‘what did you expect!’
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): I don't know. I am not a cheat as yet. But I have fallen in love with a man who may or may not have feelings for me. I don't find fault with my partner nor am I terribly unhappy. But I don't want to have sex with him though I have no offense in living with him. I do love him still. So I don't know.
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reader, PM  +, writes (13 November 2010):
 In my opinion, cheating is a decision and, therefore, can be made almost at any time. I do not believe that if a person is satisfied with their relationship, they will not cheat because temptation always exists, it's a matter of whether or not you act on it.
With that said, a person in a bad or unsatisfying relationship is more likely to cheat because the relationship is satisfying them so little. A person who cheats while in a satisfying relationship is likely doing so because of an inability to commit to one person due to a need for sexual variety, fear of intimacy or any number of things. In general, it's due to some kind of personal issue on their part and not necessarily the relationship.
In my experience, however, a person who cheats has a bit of both going on: their relationship isn't satisfying them 100% and they're unwilling to do something about it because they themselves have some kind of issue that makes them want to stray.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): That depends on the woman's values and her ability to resist her feelings. She could if she's very attracted to someone else or if she falls in love with another. Sometimes it just happens out of the blue, and we throw off our contentment with our significant other no matter how great he is.
Some of us resist when this happens, go through a period of emotional turmoil, and get past it eventually, and get close to our spouse again. Others find themselves in a destructive affair that usually ends in great heartache for all involved and divorce.
I've been very attracted to other men a few times during my 30 years of marriage, but have never had sex with another man. I've also had what's called an "emotional affair" with a man I worked with for several years and whom I'm still not over. It wasn't planned--it just happened from working so closely together and sharing our lives. Yet, I remained faithful to my husband, because to me, an affair is unthinkable and unforgivable. And I'd never want to hurt my husband or family.
So in my experience, I believe emotional affairs pose the greatest danger to a relationship. When we start having feelings for someone, those emotions are bound to grow into love over time and make us pull away from our spouse and want to be with someone else.
None of this is unique to a woman. It happens with men too. That's why it's dangerous for a male and female who are in a committed relationship to be friends or to work very closely with each other. This is especially true in a workplace where the stakes are high or is emotionally charged (such as the medical field), because such a setting draws the two even closer together as they look to each other for emotional support and comfort.
Of course, on the other side of the coin, there are also women and men out there who have poor values, an inability or desire to commit, and who prioritize sex and would sleep with anyone--or anything--no matter how loving and great in bed their significant other is.
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reader, cluelessgal  +, writes (13 November 2010):
Simply put, a well loved in terms of understanding and communication from spouse, in addition to sexually satisfied lady will not look at another man. However, IF she is only getting quantity (of sex) and not quality , then the spouse has failed to bring out the best in her. This will result in a extra marital affair.
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