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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi all, need some advice/ help please! I seem to have a problem with my bf being slow on the communication like texts/ calls. We have been together 9 months and hes always been like this from the start. He does initiate calls/ texts sometimes but its not as often as i would like. Now im not a demanding girlfriend and if im honest this sort of thing at times does bother me slightly. Its like he dosnt want to speak to me but then when we do get together its obvious nothing is wrong. Im not sure if he is just this type of person, i.e. laid back or hes a player and just cant be bothered. Does anyone have any advise on what to do? Should I completely hold back my calls/ texts to him?Thanks x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 November 2010):
Don't ignore/hold back. The common mistake that women make with men is that they think ignoring will make him come running. It won't. It will make him confused. Some guys are not communicative, and that's something you can't change.
If you want him to call/text more, then you need to explain in simple, straightforward terms that you'd appreciate him texting and calling more. If he changes, all well and good. If not, then you need to decide whether you consider this to be a deal breaker or not.
Just don't start not contacting/ignoring. A guy won't see past that. All he will this is that you've lost interest. TELL him how you feel.
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