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writes:Hey, I don't know where else to turn, or ask for an outsider's opinion. I have a crush on a man 10 years my elder. I'm not too fussed about age, but it seems ridiculous. Would a man ever look twice at someone 10 years younger? We get on well together, both in person and texting. I'm scared I'll make a fool of myself and he'll just consider me a silly little girl, so I'm keeping my feet firmly on the ground.He looks younger and I look older. So my question, would it be wrong? I know it would depend on the person, but would he be bothered about age generally?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): I'm ten years older than the girl i'm interested in. So i understand where your coming from. Most guys think girls 10 years younger wuld never look at them in that way. So my advise is go for it he probably wouldn't mind. If he does then just go on being silly never hurt anyone. Stand up and say it like you mean it and it will sink in no problem.
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reader, home_land  +, writes (25 March 2007):
 hello
i think when the feelings are right then just do it
my wife she is 10 years older than me i dont think that there is any thing wrong in that
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): yes older men do look at younger females I have personally have been in a serios relationship for the last 2 years with a man that is 63 and i'm only 34 years old.. I was in another relationship prior to this one with a man that was 45 and i was 32. so yes they are def. interested in younger female partners.
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (12 March 2007):
My man is 12 years older than me and we are very inlove and very happy!! Age has nothing to do with it.
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reader, Echoes +, writes (11 March 2007):
The first thing is YES men absolutely find younger women attractive and are interested in them. Its a well known fact (called parental investment theory) that men like younger women due to the potential for producing good offspring and women like older men due to the potential of providing a comfortable next. A little deep maybe but the point is that MEN like younger partners on the whole. However I would advise caution at 17 years of age as the older you get the closer (emotionally) the gap appears to be. It may be that a 17 and 27 year old won't have as much in common as a 25 and 35 year old. I wish you luck and hope you find happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): Yes, men look twice, three times, four times at women 10 years younger than them. You don't mention your age so the only thing that may come up in an age gap is work and play issues. His work might be the priority in his life by that time. He may be over clubs while you're just dicovering them. If you're younger and interested and you do go out, just let yourself be yourself. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes can be charming. Don't fake a maturity and just bring the freshness of your youth to the date. That's better than bringing anything else. It's good to know women like older guys. S
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): Well a lot of men aged 26-27 would love a woman a decade younger than them to have a crush on them. But why would you want to have a relationship when you are still in your teens with someone which is nearly 30? Keep him as just a friend and have a relationship with someone your own age. By the way, the feeling might not even be mutual and maybe he's just looking for friendship with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): Are you serious? Most men look for women younger than them. And if he's like 27 and you're 17, you are considered legal at 17, right? So he probably wants it.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (11 March 2007):
 The answer to your question is yes, men would look twice at someone 10 years younger than them. You are very young though so I would find out exactly his situation before I dove in there. Is he married or in a relationship? If he's single, what is he looking for in a relationship with someone else? Is he looking for fun or something more committed? Talk to him as a friend first of all and get to know him better. Looks are only skin deep and it may be, once you get to know him better he's not exactly what you first thought.
Eve
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reader, cd206 +, writes (11 March 2007):
 It's not wrong in a legal or moral sense for you to date a man ten years older than you as long as you really are 16 but ten years is a huge gap at your age. When you're 20 and he's 30 it won't be as big since the gap narrows as you get older but the truth is that right now you'll probably find there are a lot of problems between you based on the fact that you haven't yet reached full maturity. You also need to be prepared that going out with a fully fledged grown up means having a very adult relationship that will include the expectation of sex very early on. You should never feel forced into doing anything you're not comfortable with but you need to know this will probably be expected of you. As for whether he could ever be attracted to you I must admit that I don't have a clue. I don't know him personally and every 26-27 year old is different, just as every 16-17 year old is different. What I would say though is that he may be a little immature if he wants to date someone so much younger. That's not meant to be a personal attack on you or other girls your age, just that an age gap of ten years is quite a big one at your ages.
CD
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