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*njoythesilence
writes: Were co-workers and we've known each other for about 5 months now. Hung out couple of times and seem to start a good friendship. I'm so into this girl but i just cannot read her. She seems to appreciate little things i give her once in a while, but this time i wanted to see how she reacts to this. This past xmas i made a drawing with her favorite song typed on it, watercolored it, framed and than personally gift-wrapped it. She thanks me over the phone and tells me she really likes it. and that was it. Never talked about it again... So my question is, with this kind of gift, would a girl know that i fancy her??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 I do not think it is wise to tell her your feelings until you can see signs of her treating you in a very special way. If you are unsure of how she feels about you , do not tell her even if she knows you are interested in her.
Just be there for her and as a good friend.It would be more comfortable for her and you since you are co workers. If she is interested in you she will shower her attentions on you.
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reader, Enjoythesilence +, writes (17 January 2008):
Enjoythesilence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone, yeah her and i have hung out outside of work. dinner and stuff like that, alone and with groups. Were also co-workers so the situation can be sticky. I'm debating between, should i just approach her and spell it all out how i feel, but than things can get uncomfortable for her.... or do i just be patient, be a friend and let all this feeling kill me slowly?
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reader, robynnex  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 i would think i guy liked me if he went threw all that time and effort to get me somthing for christmas.
i think that maybe you should tell her how you feel and ask her if she feels the same. mayeb you's could go to the cinema or dinner or out for a drink,
good luck
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (17 January 2008):
I think she would know you fancy her. No man would do that unless they fancy her. Any men would just pop into the store to buy her a gift.
Her reaction could be muted because she maybe shy or she does not know how to handle this situation or she is taken .
You have given her the gift and it is the end of it.Bringing up this topic would tell her your intents and would embarrass her.
Monitor her for any outward pattern that may tell you that she is interested in you or any response from her.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (17 January 2008):
 What a really lovely thing to do.
But in answer to your question!.
Some people need it spelling out that you like them. Why dont you just ask her out, on a date?. If she says no, then at least you know where you stand with her. Thats the worse that could happen. But she could actually say yes.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Ahhh... yes! It is such a personalized gift that I couldn't imagine someone not knowing there was something more than a friendship going on in your mind. Her reaction, however, doesn't seem that appropriate for a hand made gift. If she fancy you back she would have taken this opportunity to get a little closer and if she doesn't then she might have said something of the sort. Have you tried to bring up the subject again with her? Does she know it was hand made and not bought?
Good luck!
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