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female
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30-35,
*uska
writes:So my girlfriend of about three months told me about a week ago that she wanted to "take a break" because she needed to focus on her schoolwork, and that there's some problems at home. I come to school the next day (Friday), and she doesn't say hi to me nor anything else all day (we have a lot of classes together). As the days pass, she moves away from the table we usually sit at during Art class, and instead of staying in Art for a second period, she goes to lunch, which she never went to before this week. Why does she hate me and avoid me all of a sudden? I know I didn't do anything wrong. Our friends are wondering why as well. She treats everyone else the same except for me.
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reader, Juska +, writes (18 January 2008):
Juska is verified as being by the original poster of the question dapone1, she avoids only me and treats everyone else the same as she used to. And yesterday, she sent me an email, telling me she has to break it off altogether because "people are starting sh*t" with her because she is avoiding me (no one knows why she did it, including myself). Keep in mind I did not ask anyone to say anything to her, so that is her problem.
I'm just keeping my distance now, because obviously she doesn't want me around anymore. I'm not going to ask her what I did wrong until she talks to me again. She began the silence, and she's going to have to be the one to break it.
Thanks for all your help, everyrone.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Hi jusca
It may be that your friend is going through a difficult faze because of the problems she is having at home, this will make a difference to her private life and school work, she may not be able to deal with all the pressures in her life at this time, maybe if you give her the space she needs to sort her problems out then things will improve, because of the pressure at school and home it would be wise of you to back away from her for now,and give her a chance to to deal with her problems she is facing, if you put her under any more pressure she may end your relationship all together,tread carefully if you love her then you should understand what she is going through.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Sometimes , it is the little things you did not do or say or forget which can make them want to break up.It is the last straw that broke the camel's back.It could be some innocuous incident.There could be some misunderstandings or a breakdown in the communications.
Since she is trying to avoid you , it is best that you just leave her alone until her mind clears up.You could write her a letter to find out what is wrong .
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Maybe you can try talking to her outside of school. Tell her what you feel and that you want to remain friends, to tell you if you have done something wrong and how to fix your relationship.
Breaking up with someone from school is very difficult because you are forced to see that person all the time. If there was some other reason for her to break up with you (that you are unaware of), she might feel uncomfortable around you as she might still have feelings for you. Try to talk to her and give her the space she needs at school.
Good luck!
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