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writes:Ok. I'm 16, and yes sexually active. I'm on birth control, and were having unprotected sex, but he pulls out. My bf is 21. I graduate in a year and a half, when I'm seventeen. If I do happen to get pregnant I have it all planned out.. Just because my grandma, mother, and sister all got pregnant at the age of 16. But, I don't know if my plan is realistic or if it is even good to have a plan? I am thinking if I do happen to get preg. I will finish school the best I can hopefully all the way, with a part-time job. I know a job I can get that starts off at $8.25, which is amazingly good. My boyfriend works full-time so that is good too. He wants a kid but he wants me to be out of school, which is perfect for me. But then after I finish school I will go to the community college and still work part-time... I like to be planned and ready just in case stuff like this happens. I know i'm emotionally ready and set for a kid but not financially, that's why I make this plan. So do you think it's realistic?? Do you think it will work, just in case?
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (18 January 2008):
 I agree with Mr Kermit here. Your plan is absolutely not realistic. You are talking about going to school, maintaining a job And taking care of a baby at the same time. You've got it all wrong, sister. That's too much to handle, and something has to give, and will likely be your schooling. Once that potential baby is born it will be occupying your time more than you think...and that time you have away from the baby, you need to earn money to support it.
Basically your plan should be to continue school like you are. Use protection to avoid getting pregnant. Eventually marry your guy, establish your career...and then have a baby. You notice that I said baby last. That's right. Babies should be the last thing on your mind.
Get with a real good plan that involves education first, job second, relationship third ....and baby LAST.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 No, your plan is not realistic, and on some level, you already know it, otherwise you would not be asking.
As it is, your relationship with your bf might be illegal as you are a minor and he is not.
Have you considered that maybe, just maybe, you might find something you are really passionate about in a career and that you will want to continue with school INSTEAD of being a young mother? If you have not even considered that aspect, then you are not ready for parenthood.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008):
It sounds to me like you're setting yourself up to get pregnant whether you want to admit it or not. You're lining up the reasoning for it already, so you can justify it to yourself and others that it "just happened" and you're prepared for it anyway so it's no big deal.
There is more to causing something than just going out and trying to make it happen. Not taking reasonable actions to prevent something from happening is "causing" it just as much.
Either you use birth control or you are choosing to get pregnant. That's the way the real world works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): You sound like you want this, why go on birth control if you are talking about what 'if', I'm 17 and pregnant and petrified I'm 18 in April but that's besides the point. When my baby is born I will of finished college and going to do my degree, just because I'm qualified doesn't mean I'll get a job - I have to look after this baby when it's born. This baby was an accident, sure I'll love it but this wasn't planned or 'sorted' before hand. I have to do a 3 day thing and put my child is day care next year for a better life for us.
I don't understand why your planning this it's not all fun and games. I was on birth control and never expected to get pregnant, now I am I will love this baby but if you can avoid it you should wait. You won't realise the big impact it's going to have till you get that positive stick..
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Please use contraception! The 'withdrawal method' as its called is totally unreliable, you'll end up pregnant soon enough. There's plenty of different types of contraception available if condoms are a big problem.
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