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writes:I need help...I am 16 years old and i am in 5th year. I am the only one in my year who hasn't had sex yet. I am afraid of getting pregnant but this guy has had a lot more experience than me.He told me he wants to start seeing me but i don't even know what that means, i haven't been brought up to know what it means.I really need your help, he asked me tonight if i would have sex with him, but i said i would think about it basically the best place he can have sex with me is in a wood somewhere which i can understand because our parents are strict.I have a hugemugous crush on him, but i really am worried about pregnancy.please help me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): Look it all boils down to whether or not you really want to have sex with the guy.
You're 16 (the age most of humanity loses their virginity by) and quite old enough to know the pros and cons. And old enough to know and deal with the consequences.
You sound like you've lived a very sheltered life with parents who want you to remain docile and subserviant until it suits them, or they just are too nervous to have discussed sex with you (and they wouldn't be alone, most strict parents are that way because they don't really understand or feel comfortable with sex themselves).
The point is, do as much research as you can, but don't get overwhelmed or scared away by some of what you are going to see... remember sex is not like what porn stars do, not often anyway.
And don't do anything because someone wants you to, do it only because you want to.
Oh and Condoms are your friend.
Good luck.
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reader, clh91 +, writes (28 November 2007):
 ok dont have sex with him unless you are completely sure YOU are ready and thats what YOU want!
don't let peer pressure get to you either just coz they've lost their virginity doesn't mean you have to.
i'm 16 and have my bf for over 15 months and he says he's ready but i'm not.
i'm still a virgin as well.
if he's a decent guy he'll wait until your ready if he doesn't then he's not worth it.
tell him how you feel, if your not ready don't say yes to having sex with him. say no i don't think im ready yet.
hope i helped :)
feel free to mail message me about anything if you wanna chat
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Don't do it your young give it more time...I'm 22 and I waited til I was out of high school cause I didn't want a baby. Plus guys wanna be your first and will tell you anything. And you can get stds with a condom on and that's the last thing you want to have in your thirtys cause of something you did when you were younger. HPV is one of the top things women get just from skin contact without a condom it causes warts.....just wait cause young people don't get tested and they pass things like crazy! Give it time girl trust me it will only get you into trouble right now......you have the rest of your life.....and the woods!!! No that's not cute! If he likes you it won't matter if you don't do it....he will still talk to you...just make this choice on your own...and look at std websites and read how easy having sex is and how hard it is to live with warts HIV or aids
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (28 November 2007):
 You are a little young to be having sex...
And are recieving peer pressure from others to have intercourse, but this shouldn't be a concern to you right now, think about your schooling - isn't education more important right now, being in your last year and that!
I would wait if i were you, at least until another year! And about the pregnancy issue, you can use a femidom (for the girl) and a condom (for the boy) this should prevent any unwanted pregnancy.
Also, when that boy asked to start seeing you - he means dating! By all means do so, it's nice to have a boyfriend but if sex is the only thing on his mind then i wouldn't bother. These type just take advantage! All my love xx
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