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writes:My boyfriend cheated with a girl I will now be working with she knows who I am and I know who she is.....what can I do to keep my cool....cause ill start thinking and wanna kick her ass!!! We new each other before she messed with him and she new he was my man like 3 weeks after dating him she saw my picture he's an ass I know but how do I focus at work? She even told my man I mess around and its not true!!! We were never friends just said hi and talked like twice!!! Not friends....what do I do to keep my anger under control?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): You poor thing! Shivers this would be hard and I can understand you wanting to throw her off the building!
We all know however, you can't which makes it even more frustrating. I agree with all the others to keep your cool and temper in control, take deep breaths. And, I agree she is trying to wind you up. Keep your distance and if she says anything about him or trys to get under your skin, just laugh at her and walk away. Don't talk back to her and she will start to look foolish. She will get great pleasure out of seeing you get upset and irritated, you almost need your own inner mantra to recite to stop yourself from reacting. Show her who's the real woman!
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Ignore her, and keep your contact to minimum without being openly rude.
If you get angry she will think she wins. If you ignore her and put on your face a smile it will give her pain and you will win. This is smarter. And it should make you feel better.
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reader, Darren R  +, writes (28 November 2007):
 well i think if you have forgave your boyfriend you should forgive her, it works both ways she isn't the only guilty party. I know its hard but remember it takes two to tango. and you will probably lose your job if you kick her ass!! lol it seems like it should stay in the past and just deal with the situation at work. He's with you now and thats all that matters just forgive and forget because you didn't leave him which you probably should of done. So If you kick her ass you should kick his too!!Hope that help's you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): I guess take deep breaths and focus on thinking how much pleasure it would give her to see you angry. I mean if you get angry it is only going to make her look good and you look like a fool.
If I were you I would not give her or your boyfriend the pleasure of showing them that this has affected you in the least. You should NEVER give a man that much importance, much less a man who did that to you.
When you get angry and you need to fight, make sure you do it for a good reason. Such as self defense. Or to protect your family and children. But over a guy not worth 2 cents?? Pff.
And why on earth are you still with the loser??? That's crazy!
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (28 November 2007):
 Sorry to hear about your cheating boyfriend, that must be hard enough without having to work wiv the lass he cheated with!!! I would ignore her at all times, pretend she doesn't exist... I know it's easier said than done but for your own benefit it would be for the best! She's maybe wanting to wind you up, wanting you to get aggrivated by her so she can rub it in your face about her shameful fling with your boyfriend. Don't lose you temper, and if she does say something then just put on an 'I aint bothered' face! Even if it is hurting, this will only satisfy her. Be brave hun! All my love xx
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