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writes:Hey im 16 and a virgin and im really worried becuase me and this guy ive been with are ready to take our relationship to the next level and after nearly 3 years im ready but im really worried that its going to hurt or im going to put him off becuase im really self concious about my downstairs (if u get me) and im really worried about what he will think can anyone help me out? thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): I lost it at 16, it didnt hurt a bit. But I wish now I had waited for my special guy im with now. If you really like this guy then maybe you should have sex with him, but when you feel its right and you are ready. Make sure you use contraception (pill/implant/injection AND comdom, we only used a comdom and thats how I got pregnant!) and dont let anyone pressure you into it. Age doesnt matter as long as it is legal where you are, and you feel ready.
Good luck and remember to enjoy your relationship whatever you choose
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reader, Natalie-x +, writes (8 July 2006):
 Well, you must make sure this guy is right before you give him your virginity. If he is right, explain to him how you feel about your situation. Tell him you're nervous. But, he shouldn't care if he really loves you.
Don't jump into things when you're really not ready. Discuss the matter with your bloke, and determine whether you're really ready or not. Remember, virginity's not something you can buy back. Try to sort it. Good luck!
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reader, uonlyliveonce +, writes (5 July 2006):
 go on top the first time, sounds scary i know but you'l just know what your doing straight away and thats how i lost my virginity and it didnt hurt at all dont listen to what everyone else has to say everyone is differant.
as for being worried about 'down there' if you were with the right lad you'd feel comfortable with him no matter what, and if your plannin on sleeping together why hasnt he seen 'down there' already?? dont just jump straight in to bed theres other things you can be doing and sex will just happen naturally when its supposed too.
too me it sounds like you and your boyfriend dont have a close enough relationship too start with but its your choice and your life just make sure you do it because you want to not because he wants you too. x x
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reader, Angel Wings +, writes (4 July 2006):
 You are only 16, and you have a right to be worried about losing your virginity!
You obviously have a lot of self respect, but are you ready to undertake the responsibility which may be incurred?
This step might be best postponed for at least 2 years, If he (really) loves you, he will understand and stand by you, on the other hand if he is not willing to abide by your wishes ~ isn't it better to find out now, rather waiting for the unexpected...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2006): Well, I think its normal for it to hurt downstairs, I mean you're a virgin and its going to hurt no matter what. I hear that guys get turned on when the girl they're with is a virgin. He's problaby waiting for you and just cant wait any longer. If you dont feel ready dont do it and dont let him put too much pressure either. If you do decide to go through it, tell him to be very gentle. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2006): Well first of all hunn,if you dont shave well you might wanna start lol cuz no guy likes a bush :S...every chick has a vagina so whats the difference with yours? if he loves you he wont care...if you dont think you're ready then dont do it or else you'll regret it sex isnt a big thing take it from me,even tho im younger then you i lost mine at 14 and regret it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2006): Okay,,, Yes, this senario might be what you want right now, but waiting never hurts. It allows the other person to appreciate you more in a different way. 16 years old is young. I know you don't want to hear this from a 35 years old guy. I have nieces and I love the ground they walk on and would like to think that there future and emotional well being would come first. 16 is way young to understand what good love feels like, not always physical but an emotional feeling. Please rethink this physical urge. I hope this is a young man with morals and thinks about his furture also. Having sex can lead to other events
Like a bad name at school or a baby. Possibly getting kicked off of School Activities like cheerleading or soccer tons of events possibly church events. Having sex when young gets around and Teachers, friends, clergy can all find out. You don't want this.
What you want is to thoroughly enjoy your youth with no boundaries. If I was there I would give you a hug only in the sense of a big brother.
I want you to have a progressive life with fun in your youth with a great college career and then think about the sex and settling down factor. Every successful relationship has great timing and a person that comes from solid background. Wait until your done with College.
Sincerely,
Protective Uncle
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