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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): This guy is showing classic evidence of someone who will become a full blown abuser. Report him to HR, and your manager.
Let's hope he doesn't have a GF...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Tell the manager.
Yes, he should be fired.
You don't want to be anywhere alone with this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Hey there ..
Again.. I strongly agree with the guys here you should certainly report this guy, as it may not be his first offence. And if you do decide against reporting this guy what if he does it again, you would not be able to live with yourself knowing you could of prevented it. Sweetie what he did to you was indeed wrong prevent him getting any worse, nip it in the bud and let you boss deal with the situation correctly. Don't be bullied by anybody ;o)
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 Recognize
You need to realize that this guy used physical force to get his way. That is called abuse. That is why everyone is reacting the way they are. He may realize that he made a mistake and never do it again, but you should not rely on that.
Resist
Don't put you self in a situation where that can happen again. Don't ever be alone with him. Always stand out of immediate reach.
Report
Yes, do tell your manager, so he/she can be on the lookout for similar behavior. Perhaps he is so worried about you reporting because this is not his first offense. By reporting you are not just protecting yourself you are protecting other potential victims.
Those are the three R's of handling an abuse situation. Please do take this seriously.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Regardless of whether he will do it again and for whatever reason he has these anger issues, it shouldn't have happened. It is imperative that you report this to your Manager...It is harrassment. It must be reported. I know you feel it will be awkward but he has to know that behaviour like that is unacceptable and you won't let it slide. Hold your ground.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 November 2010):
I would take that up with your boss. This guy sounds like a bit of a nut job to me.
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reader, Tbosse  +, writes (14 November 2010):
 Report him or else next time he will do more harm
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reader, Love-Wisely +, writes (14 November 2010):
 A sign that: 1) he seriously likes you, and 2) controlling immaturity. It happens to be assault and battery too. It's also called: creating a hostile work environment. You could potentially be fired for NOT saying something...
You were trying to be cool about it. But this person is virtual stranger. Who knows what he might do next? Sabotage your work? Push you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): Yes, please tell your manager and get him fired as that is very inappropriate and could be construed as workplace violence. Dont listen to his words...for the love of God please turn him in and get him fired. The world has enough creeps...just look at the size of me as proof...now thats just not words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): his violence against you is totally unacceptable. He will do it again. Show your manager now. This abusive guy is no ''friend''
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (14 November 2010):
 It sounds like that guy has some serious anger issues. That is not a normal reaction to something like that and very inappropriate. I would tell the manager, I'm sure he would be fired.
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