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writes:They say action speak louder than words, but I'd like to hear it one more time from you aunts please. My boyfriend says one thing, but his body language and actions make me wonder if his word alone is good enough.He tells me he loves me, yet keeps forgetting to respond to texts. I could send him a text and if he doesn't immedeately respond there's little chance he ever will, because he puts the phone down and "forgets" about it. Is this good enough? It's starting to become a problem because it makes me feel like I am easily forgetable. Yet he tells me how much I mean to him and how much he cares and that he doesn't forget about me intentionally. I don't think he does it on purpose, it's still a bit hurtful though.There's other small things like this, which makes me so confused. When I am with him I get attention, he treats me to things, puts his arm around me and is lovely, which makes me beleieve everything he says. But then he does these things which makes me wonder if I should believe it, or if he truly doesn't care too much?Like here the other day he forgot his mp3-player at my place and I texted him about it with no response, then went over to his place with it the following day and wasn't invited in. Then he texts me the day after saying of course he likes it when I stop by, even if he didn't even invite me in to stay. He barely ever invites me over anyway, I have to invite myself. It is like I am easily forgotten and that he has no need to see me unless I pop up randomly. Yet he tells me he thinks of me every day and that he loves to have me visit... I don't know what to make of it! If he enjoys my company why doesn't he invite me over to his place, or ask to do things with me?My friends tell me that if you care about someone you don't "forget" about them. He tells me he cares and forgets... So, words or action? Is forgetting to text back serious? Is it a sign he doesn't truly care, and that it's all empty words?
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 Sounds like empty words to me. How can you forget someome you care about? My boyfriend and I are in touch everyday. Recently he was visiting family 300 miles away but he text me constantly and called whenever he could. I think this man is paying you lip-service. When he sees you he makes all the right noises but when you're not, he forgets. Much less the case that absence mades the heart grow fonder with him it's more like out of sight out of mind!
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reader, GoodDog +, writes (7 August 2011):
 Yes, actions do often speak louder than words and your boyfriend is proving that here.How long have you been together and was he always 'forgetful' or is it just a recent thing?The fact that he is being hot and cold with you shows that there might be something else going on in his life and will only come to you when it suits him.Maybe you could try to stop initiating any form of contact for a while and see what happens then? If he realises that he might be losing you, and he genuinely wants to be with you, it might just be the wake-up call he needs.However, if he doesn't respond or continues the way he is, it might be time for you to put an end to the relationship and be with someone who really does want to be with you and respects you more.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2011): Maybe he is absent minded anyway, or maybe he just doesn't care enough for you. I believe if someone really loves and wants to be with you then they will do anything to be with you. He seems a bit casual, which might not necessarily be a bad thing, he just might have got used to you doing the running around. Take a break from chasing him and let him come to you. Sounds as if he has become a bit complacent..!
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reader, kylieekristina  +, writes (7 August 2011):
 I know I'm probally wrong to make an assumption because you (make an ass out of u and me when u assume lol) BUT I just got this eirrie feeling you are not the only woman in his life. Are you sure he doesn't have something going on that you do not know about?
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reader, happy140 +, writes (7 August 2011):
 You are not being forgotten, you are being used. When he comes over I bet he gets sex. Things are great when you are together because at that time he needs or wants you. The rest of the time you are not needed. Sounds like he has another girlfriend to me if not a wife somewhere. You really should move on before he hurts you even more. You are defiantly being used, please see your relationship as such.
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